I love and like two women.

[William Toledo]

I’m in a long distant relationship with my gf of 9 years. She lives 3 hours away from me and i see her once a month. Our relationship is good but not great. We have our problems and i think about my future with her. But here is where my problems start with my gf. She doesnt acknowledge me as her bf to her parents or friends. Throughout my whole time dating her i was never included in her social media life. She kept telling me befause her family is not going to like it and they are going to tell her stuff. Its still like this to this day. Shes got use to it that she doesnt see it as problem like I do. The other girl i like i met her at my work place. She go every two to three weeks to sell her sruff and I make small talk to her. It continue on for some few months and I kinda felt the girl liked me because I could feel it. So the last time that she came I got her number and we went out to eat that day. I had a good time and talk about our high school days. I’m 27 my gf is 23 and the other is 26. After i was done eating she wanted to know if I had a gf and i was honest to her. I told her i did and I apologize for not telling her when I asked for her number. We went home and we talked about why we liked each other, and spend a good amount talking with each other. I tried to kiss her but she didnt let me because of her morals. I keep thinkimg about her and i like her. I saw her on Christmas and we hanged out in my car. I tried to kiss her again but she didnt let me. Saying that I have a gf and its wrong. I understand what she means and im still teying to fimd out what she really wants from me. I really need help with this.

[Bergamot Earl Grey]

Let’s look at this objectively though. Your current girlfriend is keeping you a secret which is bothering you. I’m not saying that she’s cheating on you but saying that her family would tell her “stuff” is a good excuse to keep you hidden so that she could pretend to be single and cheat on you. Perhaps her family really is that toxic I don’t know and neither do you mate 0_o

You only see her once a month…. You could see a woman who lives closer more often.

She didn’t want to kiss you because she has a sense of morality. I would act in the same what as she did if a woman with a boyfriend tried to kiss me … So it’s likely that we think alike. If a girl told me that she left her boyfriend of 9 years to be with me I’d feel uncomfortable jumping into a relationship with her right away so she may feel that way too.

You two started dating when she was 14 and you were 18. You two may have grown apart. Mate she wasn’t grown when you started dating her… You started dating a girl and now she’s a woman. She’s not the same person you started dating 9 years ago.

Breakup with your girlfriend and don’t go straight to the other girl…. She may start dating someone else, sobeit. At that point you would be single and she is someone you could end up dating but not necessarily someone you ABSOLUTELY have to end up dating.

You tried kissing her once and she refused because you have a girlfriend….. You then try kissing her again whilst still having a girlfriend. Mate you seem pretty daft 😉

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