How to approach a shy guy?

[kae]

Hi Luke,

So me and this guy that I kind of like are together in school and we go to the same classes and he really likes me a lot I think because he is always staring my way and I can tell he is interested except him and I haven’t gotten to talking yet. I get shy and nervous around him and end up unintentionally ignoring him.Which resulted into me feeling guilty about it. Now I have found out that he thinks I have bad intentions because I ignored him when in reality, I was just shy an couldn’t even make eye contact.. I feel bad because I want to talk to him but don’t know how, can you please give me some tips on how to overcome my shyness and how can I make him more comfortable around me so he will open up?
Thanks in advance, Kae

[Luke]

Hi Kae,

You can overcome your shyness by finding something that the both of you have in common. It could be a hobby, interest, experience, etc.

Oftentimes, this will give you the confidence to not only make eye contact with this shy guy but also start meaningful conversations with him.

Connecting with him about something that the both of you have in common will also help in making him feel more comfortable around you, which could lead to him opening up to you over time.

[Kae]

Hi Luke, thanks so much for replying! I haven’t seen him yet but I will do that if I see him, thank you so much for this advice, I haven’t thought about it like that. I do have another question, I hope you can help me with, it’s about the same guy. So I have noticed he flirts around other women a lot when I’m around and it’s making me feel a little jealous because I like him. Should I feel bad or is he just trying to get a reaction out of me, or am I just over analyzing?

[Luke]

Hi Kae,

If you haven’t noticed him staring at these women in the same way that he stares at you, he may just be trying to get a reaction out of you when he flirts with them.

[Kae]

Hi Luke,
Then I think he likes me.. I’ll try my best haha. Thank you so much for your advice! Have a good day.

[Luke]

You are welcome Kae.

All the best.

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