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Hi,
I work in a shop and every morning a woman comes in always around the same time just after we open, and sometimes in the afternoon also. She never really buys anything from the part that I work in but she always walks past and browses the shelf’s. long story short I find myself thinking about her more and more. A part of me thinks it’s crazy because I don’t even know this woman’s name. But another part of me wants to try and talk to her more but I just don’t know what to say to her without coming across as weird. There have been times where she has seen me and then turned around and walked off and times where she has seen me walked away just to come back round a couple of minutes later and some other things have happened. I would like some advice on how I could talk to her. I hope you can help me with my question.
ThanksHi Nick,
It doesn’t appear that she feels the same way.
She may have a lot of time on her hands in the morning and your shop is just one of her stops.
Even though the both of you have made eye contact on occasion, she hasn’t really responded in a way that would indicate any kind of romantic interest.
On occasion she has turned around and walked off upon making eye contact with you.
On other occasions, she has turned around and walked off but returned a couple of minutes later.
None of this indicates that she feels the same way about you in terms of attraction or interest.
However, a good way to go about talking to her is to put yourself in a position where you know that she will run into you.
If you can get away from your work station for a few minutes without getting into trouble, you should go to the shelves that she normally browses and appear as though you are working.
Once you see her approaching, turn to her, smile and ask her if you can help her with anything.
If she says yes, this would be your opportunity to talk to her and get more information about her as you help her out.
If she tells you that she doesn’t need any assistance, let her know of any specials or sales that your shop may be having.
This is even more effective if those specials or sales cover some of the items that you have seen her purchase in the past.
To have this kind of information, it would be wise to start observing what she purchases when she comes into the shop.
This will give you an opportunity to prolong your conversation with her if she tells you that she doesn’t need assistance.
Now that you have either assisted her with something or told her about a special or sale, she is going to be familiar with you.
This means that the next time she comes into the store, as long as it is fairly soon, she may acknowledge you with some eye contact and a smile when she browses the shelves at your side of the store.
Be sure to position yourself at the shelves a few times a week.
Conversation will become a lot easier with her the more she sees you and the both of you proceed to engage in small talk.
Hi Luke,
Thanks for the advice. Over the last couple of weeks I have been able to talk to her a little more. I decided that talking to her about a product that she had would be a good way of starting a conversation and it was. We spoke about it a little and when I saw her the next day she told me what it was like and I then spoke to her about another product that I planned on trying. I am off for a week now so won’t see her and was wondering what I should say when I see her again. Can I ask how she’s been and how her week was or would that be too much?
Hi Nick,
Good job.
In the last couple of weeks, you have taken the first crucial steps in building rapport and trust with her by starting conversation.
When you see her again, you can begin by telling her about the product that you were planning on trying.
Being that you would have been off for a week, you could then proceed to tell her a short story about something fun that you did during your week off.
This is often how you will be able to start moving your conversations into more personal territory with her.
You could use something that most people have in common when it comes to fun activities.
Perhaps you could talk about a movie that you saw during the course of that week or a TV show that you watched.
These are often very safe and enjoyable areas to branch into when you have gotten past the first few businesslike conversations about products.
There is a good chance that once you have given her a short and interesting account of something fun that you did during the course of your week off, she will feel compelled to ask you further questions in relation to it.
She may even feel more encouraged to share an account of something fun that she did during the course of her week with you.
This is a more effective way to get her to tell you about how her week was.
It is also a great way to further your conversations with her and build even more rapport.
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