I met a guy on a dating site 3 years ago. He was in an open relationship and i wasnt looking for anything serious so that was cool with me, we only chatted. He pursued me for months and during that time feelings on both sides developed. After a year i broke it off because i didnt want to get hurt but missed him like crazy. I initiated contact after 6 months and we’ve been chatting ever since. He is in the process of divorce, contracted a minor std and kept his distance. I asked him to have coffee a month ago and we had real platonic fun. A few days afterwards i told him i still want him. I had hoped he would reciprocate but his answer was that he was surprised. He’s been silent eversince. I came on strong and feel pretty stupid, but can i conclude that his lack of reciprocity is a clear no?