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Why did he flirt with me to the point where he touched me frequently. I saw how he acted with other females, with me, he was extra extra nice. when he would pass by my desk he would blow rapsberries and smiled at me when i looked up.Recently he mentioned popcorn and scary movies but never followed through. Now he came out and told me he has a crush on our director but will not do anything because she is older and married. Why did he change his behavior? And he doesn’t want me to leave this job. I fell for him that’s why I’m leaving.
Hi Veronica,
Your coworker may have flirted with you to the point where he would touch you frequently, blow raspberries and smile at you, as well as mention popcorn and scary movies because he was trying to distract himself from the person that he has a crush on. That would be the director.
He told you that he has a crush on her but won’t do anything because she is older and married.
He may have already established a crush on her before he started flirting with you.
However, he may have eventually come to the realization that he could never go for her. As a result, he may have started flirting with you in the hopes that he would be able to create a distraction for himself and possibly get over the crush that he has on her.
However, so far, he has been unable to get over her.
This is why he never followed through when he mentioned popcorn and scary movies.
He may have told you not to leave the job because he worries that if you were to leave, he would have no one to distract him from his crush on the director.
He feels that he can flirt with you in a way that he is incapable of doing with the director. Flirting with you makes him feel better about the fact that he is unable to bring himself to do anything about his crush on the director.
It is a welcome distraction for him.
If you were to leave, he would not have that distraction and most of his work days may be laden with thoughts of a director that he feels that he can’t have, being that she is older and married. He may not want to put himself through all of that on a daily basis.
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