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April 21, 2020 at 11:44 pm #113217adelleGuest
I’ve confessed my feelings to him but told him we can’t date because of religious reasons
He initially didn’t respond with anything
Later on as we got to know each other, I asked him whether he would date me if things were different and there was a possibility of dating
He responded saying that I am his friend and he doesn’t think about dating at all because of his recent breakup. but then he followed by saying he has thought of me in a different light because I appeared in his dream once. He refused to tell me what the dream was about.
when I told him I am still confused about his feelings, he said that he sees me as a friend and to not worry about the dream.
I feel like he is hiding his feelings. But I could be wrong and maybe he really only sees me as a friend.
I am mainly confused as to why he would mention seeing me in a dream. Why didn’t he simply say we are friends and leave it at that?April 22, 2020 at 9:57 am #113219
He may have mentioned that he saw you in his dream because he wanted you to know that there was a point in time where he may have seen you as a person that he could possibly date.
Some of this was prompted by the fact that you did confess to him in the past about your feelings for him.
When you made this confession, he didn’t say anything. This meant that he most likely wasn’t feeling the same way about you at the time.
However, by making your confession, you did plant the seed in his mind about the prospect of dating you.
As time went on and the both of you got to know each other better, he may have started flirting with the idea of what it would be like to date you.
This may have ultimately led him to having that dream about you.
He may have told you that he had this dream in order to let you know that there was a moment in time when he was flirting with the idea of dating you.
However, being that he only had this dream once, there is a good chance that this moment in time didn’t last.
He has since told you that he doesn’t think about dating at all because of his recent breakup.
Thereby, there is a good chance that he is still dealing with the emotional repercussions of that relationship.
If you have noticed that there are no other girls that he is trying to talk to on a romantic level, there is a good chance that he was telling you the truth.
The case may not be that he is hiding his feelings for you, it may be more so that his ability to have feelings for anyone else is complicated by the likelihood that his emotions are still wrapped up in his last relationship.
He may not have simply said that the both of you were friends and leave it at that because he may have felt compelled to tell you about that dream.
Perhaps he had wanted to tell you about it earlier but never felt comfortable doing it.
He was worried that he would give you the wrong impression and false hope about the prospect of dating him.
However, when you asked him about whether he would date you if things were different and there was a possibility of dating, he felt that to be the appropriate time to tell you about the dream.
After all, he most likely had that dream around the time that he was flirting with the idea of dating you.
Hence, he may have felt that the timing was right to let you know about it being that you were asking him about the possibilities.April 22, 2020 at 4:57 pm #113233AdelleGuest
Thank you so much
your answer makes perfect sense
I did want to clarify that when i initially confessed my feelings to him he did respond but not with a clear yes or no
He responded by asking me what were the reasons for my feelings. He said we don’t know each other that well yet.
I responded saying I was attracted to him and enjoyed how I felt around him whenever we were together
but all things aside I have to accept that right now he only sees me as a friend? right? I shouldn’t let the dream part allow me to hope for anything more?April 23, 2020 at 10:58 am #113288
You are welcome Adelle.
By not giving you a clear yes or no when you confessed your feelings for him, he was indicating a lack of true interest.
He told you that the both of you didn’t know each other that well yet and even asked you for reasons why you felt the way that you did.
This isn’t the kind of reaction that you would get from a guy who is truly interested in you.
If anything, in asking you for reasons why you felt the way that you did, he may have been looking for further evidence to disqualify your feelings being that the both of you didn’t know each other that well at the time.
Yes, you should accept that he only sees you as a friend. He has made this perfectly clear to you.
You shouldn’t let the dream part make you hope for anything more because it was a one time dream that had very little impact on how he went about behaving after he had it.April 23, 2020 at 12:16 pm #113289AdelleGuest
Thank you so much! I really appreciate thisApril 24, 2020 at 4:47 am #113290
You are welcome Adelle.
All the best.April 24, 2020 at 1:40 pm #113293TruthGuest
When I have a dream about someone it usually means I have thought about them for a while. I usually like that person, unless it is a nightmare. I guess it is my subconscious telling me that.
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