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Hi Jai,

It is going to take time for him to be ready to see the changes.

It is also going to take time for you to start showing the changes.

Hence, you will both have to be patient with that.

The good news is that he has at least been home to see the kids even though he doesn’t stay the night. This will give him the opportunity to see you and thereby observe whether your behavior is changing for the better.

So, you will have to be very diligent in going to your appointments for the next 9 weeks.

Avoid falling into the trap of constantly trying to show him the changes in you.

You would be forcing it and this will only make you more frustrated if he doesn’t react the way you want him to.

Let him come to the realization that you are changing for the better through his own independent observation.

This is when you will have the best shot at possibly reconciling and he just may choose to start spending the night again from time to time until he gets comfortable enough to make it permanent.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by Luke.

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