A guy that really likes you does everything in his power to make you feel safe.
He never wants you to ever think that he is taking advantage of you.
Whenever he senses discomfort in you, he asks you whether you are alright and wants to know what is troubling you.
He consistently demonstrates concern whenever these moments of discomfort occur as he is courting you.
Whenever you express discomfort and specify the reason, he apologizes and corrects that behavior.
A guy that really likes you never wants to push anything on you that you aren’t ready for.
He is patient.
Not wanting you to do anything that makes you uneasy.
This is a man that is considerate.
He puts your well-being before his, and courts you at a pace that you are comfortable with.
He doesn’t bully you to have sex with him when you aren’t ready.
His primary concern is that you feel safe with him.
On top of all this, he remembers the smallest details of what you tell him.
In consequent conversations, he asks follow-up questions stemming from these small details.
His curiosity about who you are as a person is robust.
Whenever you share information with him about what you love, he remembers this and doesn’t take it lightly.
For example, while talking to you on a date, you inform him that you love a particular type of flower, and he makes it a point to bring you those specific flowers as a gift on the next date he is on with you.
He showcases this big-hearted and considerate behavior time and time again.
This goes for what he does when you come over to his place too.
He cooks a meal that you have told him in a previous conversation that you enjoy.
In his fridge, he has drinks that you have told him in a previous conversation that you enjoy.
In the guest bathroom, he has lotion and soap brands in odors you have told him you love in previous conversations.
A guy that is consistent in these behaviors, is for real.
Conversely, a guy who is taking advantage of you doesn’t have anywhere near this level of patience.
Some pretend to be patient and considerate in the beginning, but this falls apart after you go on a handful of dates with him.
This is why you should hold out on giving in to everything he wants.
A date or two isn’t enough to determine whether he is pretending or not.
By giving it a few more dates, preferably a total of five or more, you get to determine whether he is authentic.
In time, a guy that is taking advantage of you shows holes in how he has been representing himself.
This is where he is showing that he only cares about what he wants.
He doesn’t remember the smallest details you tell him about yourself.
He doesn’t give you thoughtful gifts, nor does he have items at his home that he knows you have expressed a liking for.
All of a sudden, he isn’t all that concerned about taking you out on dates.
In lieu of this, he is either intent on coming over to your place, or have you come over to his.