Women receive far more messages on dating apps than men do.
The bulk of these men comment on her looks.
This means that by the time she receives the first message you send her, she has already been inundated with first messages from men about her looks.
These type of messages get old.
She isn’t on a dating app to gather compliments about her looks.
She is on it to find a connection.
No matter how kind the compliment is, she doesn’t care to read it.
She has read so many first messages about her looks that she has become desensitized to them.
This gives her no impetus to reply to your message, even to say thank you.
Unfortunately, she puts you in the same box as she puts all the men who send her first messages that address her looks.
Basically, she doesn’t respond.
Instead of sending her a first message that is about her looks, send her a first message that draws attention to what she wrote in her bio.
This sets you apart from all these men, letting her know that you took the time to read her bio.
Most men don’t do that, being that they are primarily intent on looking at her photos, and barely read her bio.
In sending her a first message that addresses what she wrote in her bio, you set yourself apart from these men.
This gives you a much better chance at getting a response from her.
Seeing that women receive far more messages on dating apps than men do, it’s vital you stand out.
When you send a first message that is different from what she is used to receiving from men, you stand out.
She takes notice.
It’s so refreshing to read your message, given that it is unusual for her to receive a first message from a man who is referencing what she wrote about in her bio.
This is what women appreciate on dating apps.
It’s what she responds to.
Instead of trying to impress her by complimenting her looks with your first message, send her a message that addresses what she wrote in her bio.
Whether it has to do with what she wrote about her profession, travels, alma mater, a pastime, etc., send a first message that asks a question in reference to it.
This is how you grab her attention and increase the likelihood she replies to your message.
Still want to send her a first message about her looks?
Okay, there is one way to do it that she appreciates and responds to.
Most men send first messages that are too stuck on her exterior appearance.
They state that she is beautiful, a hottie, a fox, cute, fire, etc.
All of this is too superficial, which weakens their impact on her.
Rather, give her a compliment that is weighted with substance, such as, “I have to say, your sun-kissed skin gives me the impression that you have Italian heritage. Am I right? My family are descendants of Tropea, in Calabria.”
This is how to give her a compliment on her looks while using substance.
Not a single man that has sent her a first message about her looks, ever uses this tact in how they compliment her.
They are too caught up on her exterior and never tie in a deeper meaning to her outward appearance.
By connecting a compliment about her beauty with substance, and relating to her in the process through drawing a parallel with your own life, you kill two birds with one stone, and set yourself apart from all these men.
This is refreshing, and it inspires her to reply to your first message.