That feeling of hope that you still have a shot with them.

This is where getting over someone is almost impossible.

As long as you hang on to the idea that there is a possibility for romance or love with this person, the prospect of getting over the person is absolutely herculean.

It is this hope that keeps you emotionally attached to this person.

This hope has a stranglehold on you.

You date other people, hoping that you meet someone that you can move on with, but it doesn’t help.

No matter who you date, you remain stuck on the person you can’t get over.

It’s an emotional block.

It keeps you from building new bonds with new potential partners.

Holding on to this hope is what keeps you from getting over this person and moving on with your life.

This is the hardest part.

Without getting rid of this hope, you won’t be emotionally fulfilled in any future relationship you endeavor.

This is why you must do the work on yourself before thinking about dating someone else.

Not doing the work on yourself is unfair to whoever you date in the future.

They are emotionally available to you, but you aren’t to them.

You are still stuck on the person you are supposedly trying to get over and this leaves you and the new person you are dating at a disadvantage.

Giving up on the hope that this person is coming back into your life and you are both destined to have an amazing relationship is the hardest part about getting over someone.

This is what you have to exorcise from your mind and body.

To do this, you have to come to terms with the reality that there is absolutely no hope that the two of you are ever going to be together.

This reality is brought to light when you realize that this person is going about their lives without any indication that they are going through what you are.

You think about this person a lot, and even when you have put them in the back of your mind, it is merely a matter of time before they creep right back into the forefront of your thoughts.

That being said, consider whether this person has been going through the same emotional roller coaster as you have.

They haven’t.

They have continued living their lives without an inkling of sadness or sorrow.

They are going out on dates, traveling, hanging out with friends, getting promoted at work, grooming their beloved pet, etc.

You have seen this through this person’s social media posts and what you have heard from mutual friends or acquaintances.

This person is living life to the fullest.

You haven’t seen anything on this person’s social media that suggests that they are thinking about you in any way near the level in which you think about them, nor have you heard from any mutual friends that this person is asking about you or shows any concern for your well-being.

To this person, you might as well not exist.

In spite of that, here you are, hoping that on a momentous day a miracle happens and this person tells you they want to be with you.

This real life evidence should make you come to your senses.

Once you realize that this person never thinks about you and could care less about you or what you are doing in your life, the hope that you have been harboring wanes until it collapses entirely.