It’s best to focus on getting her to experience the person you are.
If you put so much emphasis on having a long-term strategy to get her to like or love you, you may start behaving in a way that is not natural to you.
Everything you do from that point on may be for the purpose of achieving this goal and that may make you act in a desperate fashion or in a way that isn’t true to who you really are.
I know that it may be difficult for you to understand something like this because you may like this girl so much.
You have probably fantasized about what a life together would be like over and over in your head.
However, you really have to try to keep your desires and emotions in check.
People often make the mistake of getting too carried away when they want someone to like or love them.
They overcompensate by trying to do everything in their power to please that person or make that person happy.
You may really go out of your way to give and give to the person.
This is the wrong approach.
Getting anyone to like you or love you requires that you both give equally.
There has to be a give and take in a relationship for it to truly work.
You have to give the other person a chance to show that they are actually truly enjoying interacting with you as well and that they find you to be a valuable person in their life.
When you are the one who is doing all the giving, you are not allowing the other person the opportunity to return the favor.
You are also making the other person feel as though you don’t believe that you are worthy of being loved and given to in return.
This is where you begin to lose the other person emotionally and mentally.
They may hang around for a little bit longer with you but ultimately they get to the point where they have become so stifled that they choose to leave you.
At this point you are broken because you have given so much of yourself and you have ended up nowhere as a result.
This is why it is a lot more beneficial to stay in the moment and focus on building rapport with her.
This affords you the time and opportunity to show her more of your personality and learn more about hers.
This is when you will be able to find commonalities with her and thereby relate with her in those ways.
She will also do the same over time with you.
The more she gets to know you, the more comfortable she will most likely get with you.
This allows her to ultimately start feeling safe around you and wanting to be around you more and more.
This is when you may get to the point where she discovers that she is developing feelings for you and these feelings could ultimately lead to love.
This is where you want to be but it is always important to let it happen in a natural way.
This is what enables the relationship and the authenticity of the relationship to last longer.
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