You should understand that becoming attractive first and foremost has to be for you and not for someone else.
In other words, you shouldn’t want to become attractive just so that you can be appealing to someone else.
You need to appeal to yourself first.
It really starts with you. Everything starts with you.
It starts with your mind and thereby how you see yourself.
If you believe that you are truly unattractive and feel low about yourself as a result, no amount of visual changes that you make on yourself is going to make a difference.
You could go out there and get an amazing haircut.
You could get yourself a whole new wardrobe filled with the latest styles of clothing.
You could groom yourself and get manicures from the professionals.
You could start wearing contact lenses or even get lasik surgery on your eyes so that you don’t have to walk around in glasses.
You could put on the most expensive colognes or perfumes.
The list goes on and on.
However, none of these changes will make any real difference if your mindset isn’t right.
They may garner you some initial attention but once that person gets to interact with you and realizes just how negative or anxious your mindset is, they will move on.
So, it is very important that you do the work on your mind first before you choose to start doing some aesthetic work.
If you don’t feel confident or comfortable in yourself, you should ask yourself why that is.
If there was an incident in your past that led to you feeling this low about yourself, it should be addressed.
Perhaps there are a few people from that incident who are still in your life right now.
You may have to talk to them in order to get the pain that resulted from this incident off of your chest.
In other words, it’s time to make amends.
If they aren’t around or it would be impossible to get a hold of them for whatever reason, then you will have to mentally tell yourself that you forgive them.
This is absolutely crucial.
This one incident may be the actual block that has kept you from feeling better about yourself ever since.
If you can’t look back and forgive, you will not be able to move forward.
This exercise is incredibly beneficial in enabling you to take a huge load off of your shoulders and giving you a sense of peace and lightness that is refreshing.
Something else that you should understand is that becoming attractive doesn’t mean that you have to try to appeal to everyone.
This is another mistake that people make.
Your appeal doesn’t have to be universal.
Once you have done the mind work and allowed yourself to move on with your life from whatever traumatic event or incident you may have experienced in your past, develop a look that works for you.
In other words, just dress the way that makes you feel like you.
Put on the kind of accessories that accentuate more of what you are about and what makes you feel good.
Don’t worry about whether what you do in this department will appeal to everyone.
It will appeal to someone and that someone may be the best match for you.
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