If you feel ready to date, then you should date. You don’t have to make a big deal out of it.
In fact, your approach would be better if you didn’t come at it with a lot of lofty expectations.
The beauty and advantage of the dating process is that this is where you get to really feel out what you want in a potential romantic partner.
You may have initially started with believing that you were looking for a certain number of qualities in a partner only to find out that you want something different thanks to the dating process.
So it is best to look at dating as a fun and revealing process.
Don’t make promises that you can’t keep and don’t mislead those you date into believing that you want more from them than you actually do.
If it has been a while since you dated, it’s a good idea to test the waters with going on a number of dates with different people.
Since it has been a while since you dated, you may have no idea where you stand in what you are looking for in a partner.
What worked for you the last time you dated may not be the case now.
Hence, the more people you date, the more you begin to understand exactly what you are looking for.
Now, you shouldn’t just start dating because you are bored or you want to fit in with everyone else.
This would only make you approach your dates with either a lack of energy or a sense of desperation.
When you have a lack of energy on your dates because you are simply there due to boredom, you would be wasting your date’s time.
They took out the time to show up because they were interested in meeting you and getting to know you.
When you show up and have a lack of energy throughout the date, you make them feel like you lack respect for them.
This kind of energy can stay with you throughout the dating process.
The major problem with this is that when you do meet that person that you are actually interested in pursuing a relationship with, they may disregard you because you showed so little energy at the date.
Your date can sense when you lack energy.
On the other hand, if you were to go on these dates due to desperation, your date will also be able to tell.
You would try to overcompensate with so much of what you say.
You would agree with them on everything.
You wouldn’t show much of your personality because it would be all about pleasing your date.
You do not want to approach a date in this fashion either.
Again, if you feel ready to date for the right reasons, do so.
If there is doubt in your mind as far as what your motives are for dating, you may be better off not dating at this time.
Simply give yourself more time to become clear about your desire to either date or not date.
Perhaps you need some more time to grow as a person before you are ready.
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