No, it doesn’t.
They may have ignored you because they didn’t want a confrontation.
When you are confronting someone and accusing them of lying, it can be a very jarring experience.
They may be taken aback and feel somewhat defenseless.
They may have been taken by surprise and find it hard to gather their thoughts in order to respond in an appropriate fashion.
You could be going about this the totally wrong way.
The best way to confirm your suspicions is not by pointing the finger and accusing the person of lying.
They may just ignore you at that point because they believe that you are rude and disrespectful.
They figure that they would much rather stay away from you than answer you.
They may even feel like you would only go on and become even more combative if they were to deny your accusation.
A lot of people don’t like confrontation and will do everything they can to stay away from it.
Hence, your approach just doesn’t help the situation.
You can often deduce when someone is lying when they are actually talking to you in a calm manner.
The more you get them to engage in conversation with you, the more you will be able to discern inconsistencies in their story.
This is one of the most effective ways for you to truly tell if this person is lying.
You have to be patient and talk to them in a calm fashion.
You shouldn’t give them the impression that you are accusing them of anything.
They should never get that vibe coming from you.
When you engage in conversation with them like you would anyone else, you will be able to get them to talk to you in a much more relaxed and open fashion.
They don’t know that you suspect them of lying so they will talk in a normal tone and with a steady mind.
As I mentioned earlier, the key is in observing the inconsistencies in their story.
This may not take one conversation to deduce.
It may take several over a period of time. However, if you use the calm and conversational approach, you will get your answer.
You just have to approach it as though you are having conversation and not as though you are trying to find something out.
They will be unsuspecting and thereby a lot more willing to just speak without a filter.
Understand that the more comfortable you make them feel around you, the more likely they will open up in their conversation with you.
You have to allow them to feel this comfortable if you want to get to the truth and confirm your suspicions.
You need to get a hold of yourself.
Regardless of how much you feel that this person is lying, you don’t know that for sure.
You actually may be wrong.
If you truly want to get to the truth, you can’t allow yourself to make a prejudgment.
You have to keep your mind open to the possibilities.
Approach this person every time with a friendly demeanor and engage them in conversation.
You will be surprised at what you can learn when you use this tactic as opposed to going all out and confronting the person about lying.
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