You should accept the fact that she doesn’t like you anymore.
You may be holding on to the hope that she will like you again because you still like her.
You are acting like you don’t because you are trying to show her that you have moved on when you really haven’t.
The only person that you are truly deceiving is yourself.
You need to come to terms with the fact that she doesn’t like you anymore.
That has to be crystal clear in your mind.
Try to avoid the kind of games that your mind will play with you when you do this.
It will go to events in the past where she showed how much she liked you.
It will make you latch on to those events and make you believe that they can happen again.
You begin to allow yourself to get sucked into this way of thinking.
You can’t help but think about how amazing that day was and how well you two got along.
You remember how she kept laughing at your jokes.
You remember how she kept touching you.
You remember how she kept teasing you.
You remember how she kept looking at you so romantically and longingly.
These images become so overwhelming in your mind that you begin to allow yourself to get more and more lost in them.
It is from this imagery that you begin to give yourself false hope that she will eventually change her mind and like you again.
You hold on to this hope because your mind has made you believe it.
You start acting like you have moved on even though you haven’t because you don’t want to give anything away.
You may even believe that if you were to act in any other way, you may ruin your chances of her liking you again.
So you try to act tough even though deep inside you are just hoping that she changes her mind.
Again, you would be wasting your time by allowing yourself to get sucked into this kind of thinking and behavior.
Your best option is to accept your current reality and avoid creating false hope.
You had a good experience with her in the past.
Cherish those moments but then tuck them away somewhere in your mind as a good memory and set out to create new ones.
Your mindset has to be one of moving forward.
As human beings, we have all kinds of experiences both good and bad that ultimately help define the person that we are.
Our job is to take those experiences and learn from them.
This is what enables us to grow to become better people.
When you understand that life is a series of experiences that you learn from and that adds to your general persona, you will be able to move forward without constantly latching on to said experiences.
Coming to terms with your reality is your first step.
Taking your past experiences as a life lesson and moving forward with your life is the step that puts you in the right direction.
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