Tips For Going On A First Date With A Guy?

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Tips For Going On A First Date With A Guy?

Try not to allow yourself to become overcome with nerves.

Many people who go on first dates are nervous.

They allow their minds to get the best of them by going to the worst case scenario.

What if he doesn’t like the way I am dressed?

What if he doesn’t like my jokes?

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What if we have nothing to talk about?

What if he thinks I am weird?

There are so many negative thoughts that tend to come into the mind automatically when you are going on a first date.

The more you like this guy, the more negative the thoughts.

You should try to understand that when you are having these thoughts, they aren’t substantive.

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What if he thinks I am weird?

They are just there to make you feel unsure of yourself because that is how the human mind works when it is dealing with the unknown.

So, the first step when you are about to go on a first date with a guy is to clear your mind of these kind of thoughts.

Be aware of them the moment that they start happening and either put a stop to them or direct your thoughts to something else.

Once you are able to do this, you are able to put yourself in a much better mood before the date.

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You should also ensure that you are on time for the date.

As the saying goes, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.”

If you are already late for the first date, you have instantly given him a negative thought.

He hasn’t even started interacting with you on the date yet and he is already thinking about the fact that you are late.

This thought then opens the door to more negative thoughts.

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If she is this late, she is probably a disrespectful person.

If she is this late, she is probably a selfish person.

If she is this late, she is probably a difficult person to get along with.

These are the kind of thoughts that start bouncing around in his head before you have even arrived.

You don’t want to start off so poorly, so be punctual.

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You should also ensure that you are yourself during the first date. He needs to see the kind of person you are.

If you were to say things that you don’t really mean because you were trying to impress him, he may be able to tell.

Not only would you be behaving in a manner that isn’t true to you but you would also be setting yourself up for failure.

Even if somehow he was to believe the fake persona that you were presenting to him, he will be able to tell it is a fake persona as time goes on.

You wouldn’t be able to keep up the act for too long before elements of your true personality start coming through.

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Now you would have ruined everything with him.

This is not a position that you want to be in.

Be yourself even though you feel that he may not like it.

What you believe he may not like may actually be what wins him over.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.