If he is rushing into a relationship, there may be a number of things that he is trying to avoid.
For one, he may be worried that you will lose interest quickly and move on to another guy.
This means that he doesn’t have much confidence in himself and his ability to keep you interested.
If you were to get into a relationship with him, he would ultimately bore you or get you to the point where you feel like he gives you no reason to get excited about the relationship.
In other words, he has become complacent with you and feels that his job is done.
He believes that now that you are in a relationship with him, he doesn’t have to bother with being more adventurous in the relationship or keeping it fun.
He just settles in to the belief that he has you and doesn’t have to worry about any other guys taking you because you would already be taken.
On the other hand, he may be rushing into a relationship because he is on the rebound from a previous relationship that he has never gotten over.
He may still feel hurt from that past relationship and that may have negatively affected his sense of self-esteem.
As a result, he is in a hurry to get into a new relationship because he wants to act as though that previous relationship never happened.
He wants to quickly replace it with a new relationship because he believes that it will get rid of the hurt and the pain.
However, all he is doing is putting a band aid on an enormous wound.
He hasn’t dealt with his emotional issues from that previous relationship.
Thereby, most likely, if he were to get into a relationship with you, you will eventually be on the receiving end of his emotional angst.
He will begin to show it more and more as you are in your new relationship to the point where you feel like you have to babysit his emotions, so that he either starts feeling better about himself or he just stops being so negative.
This will ultimately also drag you down emotionally to the point where you may even start questioning your own sense of self-esteem and identity.
Another reason why he may be rushing into a relationship could also be because he feels like he is under a microscope from his peers and he just wants to fit in.
He doesn’t want to be the odd one out anymore who doesn’t have a girlfriend.
He wants his friends or peers to finally look at him as someone who is desired by someone else.
Unfortunately, this kind of attitude only means that you are his ticket out of what he may consider his odd and obscure existence.
You are nothing more than a pawn in essence who gets him to the point where he can start forcing himself to believe that he is normal.
You don’t want to be a pawn in anyone’s game.
If he isn’t truly taking the time to get to know you and is rushing into a relationship with you, it is most likely a red flag that you should seriously consider before allowing yourself to get into a relationship that you will later regret.
Trying to replace whatever is bothering him with a relationship is never the way to handle a personal issue.
This is how some guys run away from problems.
They figure that by getting into a relationship quickly, they can cover up whatever emotional issues they may be dealing with in their own personal life.
If they were to succeed in getting into a relationship, their partner tends to be the one who suffers the most because they would be dealing with a guy who hasn’t dealt with these issues.
This is not the position you want to be in.
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