When your boyfriend is choosing not to do stuff for you that he used to do for his ex-girlfriend, it may be because he wants to do things differently with you.
He may not want to do stuff for you that he used to do for his ex-girlfriend so as not to continue bringing his ex back to memory.
In other words, he may actually want to move on.
You are a new relationship and he may want to approach it in a way that allows him to treat you as a unique and different individual.
This is the mindset that your boyfriend may have in this scenario.
You should ask yourself why you want him to do the same things for you.
If it is a case where your boyfriend is neglecting you and barely giving you affection, it is understandable that you would want that.
Perhaps you felt like he gave his ex-girlfriend a lot more of that than he is giving you.
However, if it is merely because you want him to do the exact same things for you that really have no bearing on what a relationship needs to be viable and sustainable, you may want to start thinking differently.
If you were to demand this stuff from your boyfriend, you may begin to push him away.
Understand that he may want to do things differently with you.
He may actually want to treat you as a totally separate and entirely unique individual.
If he were to do the same stuff for you as he did his ex-girlfriend, he may come to the point where he finds it really difficult to differentiate between you and his ex-girlfriend.
Is that what you want?
Surely it isn’t.
You don’t want your boyfriend to begin to look at you as he would his ex-girlfriend.
If he were to begin looking at you in that way, he may begin to wonder if your relationship with him is headed in the same direction.
Remember that this is his ex-girlfriend we are talking about.
She is his ex for a reason.
Why would you want him to begin to look at you as he would his ex?
As I stated earlier, his ex is his ex for a reason.
If you were to bring back those memories, you may cause him to start looking at you as a person that may become like his ex.
Perhaps the reason why he is no longer seeing her is because he actually didn’t want to keep doing all that stuff that he used to do for her.
You may want to consider that.
In other words, simply because he did that stuff for his ex-girlfriend doesn’t mean that he honestly wanted to do them or that he was happy doing them.
If you were to impose your will on him to begin doing the same for you, you may force him to start doing stuff for you that he doesn’t want to.
If he didn’t like doing that stuff for his ex-girlfriend, he will most likely not like doing it for you.
This may even be the reason why he broke up with her or their relationship ended.
You should avoid causing problems where they aren’t warranted.
As long as he is treating you with love and respect, let him treat you in his own unique way.
That helps your relationship and prevents it from copying one that may have ended on a very bad note.
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