He has no control over anything else in life, which makes it so appealing to control you.

Controlling you infuses him with a sense of power that he doesn’t get in his day to day life within society at large.

A guy like this is insecure within.

He has to have control over someone to have value.

A guy like this is reluctant to accept the idea that he has to be his own person to assume any real sense of self-worth.

When a guy lacks control in his life in various areas, he is that much more motivated to make you his path to any form of control.

He believes that he has to have someone else under his control for him to have self-worth.

This is a guy that was constantly bullied in life, or was treated as though he wasn’t worth much by his family, or people in general, as he was growing up.

He doesn’t have the respect of his peers, having failed at about everything he has tried in life.

Keeping a job has been a struggle.

He dropped out of high school.

He failed in his financial life and is in serious debt.

He failed in past romantic relationships.

These are only a few probabilities that has led him to have this mindset to control.

He has nothing to look to that makes him proud of himself, as he believes that he hasn’t done anything worthwhile with his life.

This leaves him with a strong sense of powerlessness.

When he controls you, he is filled with power that he doesn’t get in his daily life.

As you let him keep controlling you, he becomes much more emboldened.

Even though he has failed in so many areas in life and has felt powerlessness, he has full control of you, and that makes him feel alive.

The power that eludes him in life is present when he controls you.

Every time it is present, he is increasingly addicted to it.

This aside, there are guys who control with the intent of getting back at someone.

He had a controlling girlfriend in the past that had her way with him.

He was in love with her and she took advantage of that love, leaving him bitter and heartbroken.

Determined to never allow himself to be that vulnerable again, he decides that he will be controlling in his next relationship.

He is going to show his next partner that he is boss.

He is going to make her feel just as bad as he did when he was being controlled by a prior girlfriend.

This gets back at his ex.

By so doing, he guards his heart too.

Controlling you safeguards his emotions and feelings.

He knows that as long as he is in control of you, he gets to keep his emotions in check.

He won’t fall in love so quickly or give in to his passions.

He maintains control and keeps himself from heartbreak.