Be careful that you don’t allow how you feel about her to get the best of your reasoning.
Believing that she is an amazing girl is your sentiment.
It is not necessarily the sentiment of other guys.
You may truly believe that she is amazing because of how she responds to you and how you find so many similarities in your characteristics.
You may even believe that she tends to have a way about herself that transcends the norm.
She may come off as incredibly likable and pleasant to be around.
She may be a lot of fun or seem like it.
She may have a way of making you feel like you are the most special person in the world.
This may truly be the kind of experience that you have had with her.
Understand that though this may have been your experience, other guys may not have interpreted their experiences with her in the same way.
Indeed, they may have had identical experiences with her.
She may have said and done the exact same things with them as she has done with you.
However, these guys didn’t necessarily translate those actions as her being amazing.
This may be because what they consider to be amazing is totally different from what you consider it to be.
You may look at that humor that she has and think that she is so amazing. However, another guy may have experienced that same humor and thought that it was odd or not all that funny.
You may have gotten some incredible anecdotes from her about an adventurous experience she had in the past and believed that this was so amazing.
However, another guy could hear the exact same anecdote coming from her lips and feel like he has heard it before and there is nothing new to learn or get excited about here.
You see, there is what you are experiencing and the way you interpret it and what other guys are experiencing and the way they interpret it.
It’s important to understand this.
You could both experience the exact same stimuli from this girl but translate them in totally different ways.
What this girl may have been doing up until this point may be the best kind of stimuli that you love.
She may really be hitting all the right buttons.
Consequently, you are led to believe that she is amazing and wonder why she has never had a boyfriend.
However, another guy may require something else in order for him to think of her as amazing because he would respond better to a different kind of personality or stimuli.
So, you do need to understand that different guys have different ways of interpreting behavior or an experience.
What works for you may not necessarily work for them.
This is why it is better to judge her based on the effect she is having on you rather than the effect you think she should also be having on others.
Her personality may be the right match for you, thereby making her amazing to you.
It isn’t necessarily the right match for everyone else.
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