Well, you shouldn’t overdo it when it comes to asking to hang out.
If you have asked her to hang out several times in the last few days, it may be too overbearing to her.
She does have a life you know.
She may actually want to take the time to do other things.
Hence, you should really try to temper your excitement when it comes to wanting to hang out with her.
I know that you really like this girl and hope that things will get serious between you but you do need to be careful with this.
If this is a girl that you are just newly getting to know, too much of you could be overdoing it.
A girl loves to maintain a sense of mystery about a guy.
This sense of not knowing everything there is to know about him quite yet and feeling like there is so much more to uncover is typically what keeps her interested and prevents boredom.
When you are asking her to hang out so much, she may be getting too much of you too soon.
You may leave nothing left for her to discover, so she gets bored.
You really don’t want this girl to get bored this early.
You really should want her to feel like there is more to you that she would love to discover.
She has to look forward to the next time she will see you.
If she is seeing you everyday or most days because you are asking to hang out so much, there isn’t much to look forward to.
You also have to understand that asking this girl to hang out too much may make it seem like you don’t have a life of your own.
When a girl senses that you need her to keep you entertained because you have nothing else going for you, it can be a major turn off to her.
Most girls don’t want to feel as though they are your lifeline.
A girl typically loves it when a guy has his own interests and social life that is independent of her.
It is typically this kind of lifestyle that draws her in.
The more she gets to know you, the more she wants to learn about what you do in your life and where you tend to spend your time.
If you don’t have a life of your own, she will not be able to be drawn into your interests because you wouldn’t have any other real interests but that of being with her.
You really need to ensure that you don’t fall into the trap of making it seem like you think about her every waking moment and your life is defined by her.
You may believe that this would be a good thing as the girl would know that you truly like her and worship the ground that she walks on.
However, this feels needy and most girls don’t like needy guys.
Temper the number of times you ask her to hang out. Keep it to once or twice a week for now to be on the safe side.
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