She was wholeheartedly into you at the outset of the courtship, but has now become so much more anxious about compatibility.
Now that she has had the opportunity to get to know you better, she is learning so much more about you, and it is giving her pause.
These aren’t innately bad traits that she is learning about you.
Nonetheless, these are personality or background traits that she is struggling to reconcile with or relate to.
If she is having a hard time doing this, she gets to a point where she tells you that this is moving too fast.
Even though she initiated everything, she didn’t know that she would encounter this issue.
When she initiated, she was acting out of an immediate emotional impulse.
It was driven by physical desire.
She felt a powerful physical connection with you at first, and didn’t think about anything else but being with you, given that she was so smitten.
Now that she has gotten to interact with you, there are issues that have arisen that she is worried about.
She doesn’t know whether she can go through with being with you, if these differences aren’t compatible.
This is why she wants to now move a lot slower than she was moving at first.
If she is to dedicate her heart to you, she wants to know that she is in good hands.
She doesn’t want to put herself in a situation where she develops feelings for you, only to have them ruined by a behavioral or background difference.
Right now, she doesn’t know what she wants as far as a relationship goes.
She hasn’t thought this through.
She initially made a move on you, knowing that she wanted to be with you intimately, but never thought beyond that.
She hasn’t considered whether she wants anything more substantial.
At this stage, she is thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship with anyone, and is worried that she isn’t quite ready for this responsibility.
She has had time with you, and recognizes that you are the type who falls quickly and falls hard.
A part of her finds that endearing but another part of her worries that she is destined to break your heart.
She doesn’t want to be responsible for that.
She wouldn’t feel right.
There was a hope that she could have kept all of this casual until she figured out whether she would want a serious relationship or not.
But, you are so emotionally invested at this stage, she is worried that your emotions are going to get the best of you.
As a consequence, you fall hard for her, and she is nowhere near at your level of emotional investment.
She doesn’t want to be in this position, and this has led to her telling you that this is moving too fast.
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