You shouldn’t be waiting on him.
If you sit around waiting for him to call or text after having previously had sex with him, you could drive yourself crazy.
Your thoughts may become too full of doubt and anxiety. You may feel like he is taking too long to call or text. You may begin to make yourself anxious about whether you will see him again.
You may start having regret that you slept with him too soon and may start wondering why you did what you did.
You may forget that you did it because it felt right and may keep judging yourself the longer you wait.
This is just some of what will go through your head when you are in this kind of mode of waiting.
You are placing too much importance in what he will do next.
You have to understand that you can’t control his actions.
He is his own person and has his own motives.
When you are so stuck on waiting for this guy to call or text after having had sex with him, you may be placing too much meaning into your interaction with him.
You may be projecting a lot of what you hope will happen with this guy.
This is very dangerous.
When you get into this frame of thinking, your mind will simply create too many scenarios and you will look at this guy as something that he currently isn’t.
The truth is that he may not want to be your boyfriend no matter how badly you may want this.
He may not want to give you any more affection than what he showed when he last saw you.
He may not want to hang around you from this point forward.
He may not want to know how your day went or whether you like him.
In other words, he may have enjoyed his experience with you and wants to move on.
How will you feel if you discover this?
Well, the more that you are so attached to hoping that he calls or texts you, the harder it will be for you to handle this possible eventuality.
You don’t want to fall this hard for someone you have barely shared any real substantive moments with.
When you dedicate this much emotion to someone who hasn’t proven himself, you may be setting yourself up for a hard fall.
Now, on the flip side, this guy may actually want to become your boyfriend at some point.
He may want to show you affection.
He may want to take this beyond sex.
However, you don’t know that for now.
Your best option is to go about living your life and be social.
Don’t wait by the phone or allow yourself to get lost thinking about him on a daily basis.
If he wants to get to know you more as a person, he will set up that date in the future.
He will focus on dating you if he really wants to get to know you and ultimately become your boyfriend.
If he doesn’t want to become your boyfriend, he may focus on hooking up instead.
If this is his approach, you will have to decide which kind of relationship you want.
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