It is okay to tell a guy you are shy while in conversation with him.
However, this shouldn’t become the focal point of your conversation.
This is typically where people make the mistake.
If you keep focusing on the fact that you are shy and allow that to become the main topic of discussion, it could lead to a very stiff and stymied conversation that never really goes anywhere substantive.
If you keep focusing on the fact that you are shy and allow that to become the main topic of discussion, it could lead to a very stiff and stymied conversation that never really goes anywhere substantive.
Revealing that you are a shy person while in the mist of conversation may be natural enough.
However, you should move on and continue the topic of discussion as opposed to allowing the topic to switch to that of your shyness.
The guy may appreciate your honesty and openness in telling him that you are shy but he doesn’t necessarily want to spend the next half hour talking about it.
Your conversation should be focused on topics that allow the both of you to get to know each other better.
You should be focused on asking follow-up questions or finding ways to relate to what he is telling you.
If you are nervous, you should understand that this is a natural feeling.
Even people who aren’t shy can get nervous when they are conversing with someone they really like.
You should try your best not to allow yourself to take this so seriously.
When you tell yourself to just relax and go with it, it will be a lot easier for you to open up and not feel so shy.
You have to simply loosen up.
Try to look at this guy the way you would a regular person that you would talk to at work, class or in public.
Take your focus away from how much you like him to the fact that he is a human being just like anyone else.
Just like anyone else he has his flaws and his idiosyncrasies.
He has facets about him that he may not necessarily like or feels like he needs to improve on.
He does know that he is not the perfect human being.
He has made mistakes in his past and will continue to do so, just like everyone else.
You will have to recognize this imperfection as well.
The moment you recognize that he is fallible just like any other human being, you can begin to being yourself to a more relaxed state of mind.
You begin to loosen up and not feel so nervous.
You realize that this guy is human and can make mistakes.
This is when you have brought him down to earth from the pedestal that you had placed him.
Once you develop this approach, you will not feel so shy.
You may let him him know that you are but you won’t let that stop you from focusing on the most important elements of conversation.
Getting to know each other is the most important element at this stage.
You may even avoid telling him that you are shy altogether because you have now allowed yourself to get really comfortable within.
Once you can bring him down to your level, you can converse in a more natural and easygoing manner.