How Do You Ask Out A Friend?

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How Do You Ask Out A Friend?

Being that she is your friend, there is a good chance that you already know what she enjoys.

There is also a good chance that you know what her schedule tends to be like.

If she is a friend and you are worried about asking her out and what this could do to your relationship dynamic, don’t be.

There may be a chance that she recognizes that you like her even though you haven’t officially asked her out.

Even if she doesn’t, she may be open to being asked out.

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You will not know unless you try.

So, you need to stop any doubts about how awkward it may be or how your relationship with her will fare after the fact.

If you allow these kind of thoughts to dominate your consciousness, you will end up stopping yourself from asking out your friend.

One of the best ways to do this is to simply tell your friend that you like her and want to take her out on a given day that you know she is typically available to go out.

Since she is already your friend and you know what she loves, you could suggest taking her to her favorite Italian restaurant.

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You really have to be as clear and obvious as possible.

Many people in your position get so nervous that they tend to mess this up.

You shouldn’t confuse her.

She needs to know that this is actually a date and not some kind of hang out.

If you aren’t clear about the fact that it is an official date, she may just look at it as a hang out with a friend.

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This means that she may not take the date seriously.

She may not actually know the real angle that you are coming from.

If she is thinking one way and you are thinking another way, this could end quite badly.

You may try to go for a kiss at the end of the date and she backs away stunned.

She may not have seen it coming because you weren’t clear about what your intentions were.

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This is why you can’t be ambiguous.

You have to be completely clear about the fact that this is a real date.

Now, if you are worried that simply telling her that you like her and offering to take her out on a specific day is being too forward, you could try something else.

You could keep things simple.

Since she is already your friend, you could prepare her favorite dish one night.

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Tell her that you are doing so and that you want her to dress up for it.

Tell her to bring the wine and you will handle the rest.

This is clearly showing her that this is not any normal kind of dinner.

If she agrees to it, she is more than likely showing that she is interested in you.

If she starts asking you more elaborate questions about what all this is about, she is showing curiosity.

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She may even ask you whether it is a romantic date, just to be sure.

This is when you will have your opportunity to confirm that it is.

If she agrees to do it, you know that she likes you romantically.

If she suddenly comes up with an excuse why she can’t make it, you know that she doesn’t like you romantically.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.