I Want To Put Off Dating Until I’m Financially And Professionally Stable. Is This A Good Decision?

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I Want To Put Off Dating Until I'm Financially And Professionally Stable. Is This A Good Decision?You shouldn’t necessarily close yourself off to dating until you’re financially and professionally stable.

There is a way that you can create balance.

When you are solely intent on becoming financially and professionally stable, you may lose out on several dating opportunities.

There are girls and guys who will actually admire the fact that you are this hardworking.

She may even be on the same path.

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She may be working hard towards reaching a financial and professional goal.

She may be willing to share this journey with you while she dates you.

You will already have something to relate to because of how driven you both are.

Listen, I understand why you may feel that you should put off dating until you are financially and professionally stable.

A big reason for that could be because you believe that this will make you more appealing when you are finally ready to date.

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You feel that by being financially and professionally stable, you will be that much more of a catch.

In some ways, you are right.

However, the problem with this kind of approach when it is taken too far is that you may not have the confidence to talk to girls by the time you have reached financial and professional stability.

You may have spent so much time working on your financial and professional goals that you have no idea how to keep a conversation going with a girl.

No matter how financially or professionally successful you are, most quality girls will want to have a great interaction with you.

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She will want to feel those butterflies when you talk to her.

She will want to know that you can take a joke and you have some personality.

She would want to be comfortable enough around you to begin to let her guard down.

When she senses that all you really have to offer in conversation are all of your accomplishments financially and professionally, she may be turned off by this.

She doesn’t want to date a robot. She wants to date an interesting human being.

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You would need to appeal to her personality and her sense of wonder.

Telling her how many advanced degrees you have or how much money you have in the bank or even how high up you are on the corporate ladder isn’t really going to do this.

If you are looking for a quality girl that is.

I am assuming you are.

You can always find the girls who are just attracted to the success and money but I don’t believe that those are the kind of girls you are looking for.

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Now, the point here is that you should at least be open to dating casually.

Interacting with your dates can enable you to keep your social skills up to date and even give you some new and interesting perspectives on the opposite sex.

It is better to have a balance.

You don’t have to dedicate yourself to a full out relationship with someone.

However, by continuing to date, even if it is only casually, you will be able to stay fresh and sociable.

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This way, when you are ready to start dating on a serious level, you wouldn’t have skipped a beat.

You would still have those social skills and confidence required to approach girls and keep a conversation going.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.