When a guy isn’t giving you his time, you are not that important to him.
He may even have the time.
However, he is simply not willing to share that time with you.
He may prefer spending that time being with his friends, talking to other girls or playing video games.
He may want to spend his free time going out to the local pubs or working on a personal project.
He may even be spending this time playing a sport that he really loves.
In the end, he isn’t dedicating much or any of his time to you.
Clearly, he is finding the time to do what he loves.
If you have noticed that he is active on social media, this is time he is spending online.
He is clearly a social person and would know how to interact with others.
If you have noticed that he spends time with his friends, he is showing that he does have the time.
Unfortunately, he has no real interest in spending some of that time with you.
When he comes up with excuses why he can’t make time for you, he is simply leading you on.
He can make time.
Of course he can.
He is able to make time for all these other activities I described earlier. He has the capacity to make time if he truly wants to.
He may tell you that he will hang out with you but then he doesn’t follow through almost every time.
A guy would only do this when he is showing a lack of strong interest.
He simply has other priorities that are a lot more important to him.
When two people are truly interested in each other, they will make the time for each other.
This is the natural way this unfolds.
The curiosity about each other will often be the catalyst that leads to more shared moments.
If there is no curiosity on his part, there is no passion.
When there is no passion, he will almost always find ways to avoid spending time with you.
His passions lay elsewhere.
His passions lay with his friends, hobbies, goals, habits, etc.
He is not willing to fit you into all this because he doesn’t want to dedicate the energy into doing so.
You can easily get blinded by how much you like this guy. You may want him to spend time with you so bad that you start giving him excuses.
You excuse his behavior by making yourself believe that he truly was sick when he told you he was, even though you noticed that he was all over social media that day.
You excuse his behavior by overlooking the fact that he told you he would take you out but flaked because he had some kind of emergency suddenly come up on the day of.
That is way too convenient.
You will have to look at all these events as signs that he is not as interested in you as you were hoping.
You will have to move on.
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