You shouldn’t force romance if you don’t feel it.
You should also not keep looking at yourself as odd or abnormal if you feel like you can’t be romantic.
You should ask yourself why you want to be this way in the first place.
You may feel like you have to be romantic because that his how you have been raised.
Perhaps you feel like you should be this way because your parents were or because you see this in popular culture or perhaps among your friends.
Not every relationship has to mirror the other.
You don’t have to copy what you have observed in your environment or in the media.
Your most important intention should be to focus on what is natural for you.
If being romantic doesn’t feel natural to you, it doesn’t.
You shouldn’t look at that as a point of sourness or something that you should feel ashamed of.
The first step in all this is to truly discover and understand your core.
Understand why you do what you do and why you tend to feel the way you feel.
This is your experience.
This is not anyone else’s experience but your own.
You are your own person and you will have to do what makes you as a person happy and functioning.
You shouldn’t do what you think is expected of you in a relationship simply so that you can conform.
As long as you have a willing partner who is accepting of you and you of them, you should do what feels natural in your relationship.
You may not be romantic but there may be other qualities that you have that far surpass that.
You may have a strong sense of adventure.
You may have a wonderful sense of humor.
You may have fantastic insights through life experiences that you are able to share with your partner.
You may have a very strong ability in solving problems.
There are so many elements that you may be able to bring into a relationship that can keep it interesting without having to force romance into it.
Now, if you just want to have romance because it is just something that you want to experience, there are a number of ways you can do this without compromising your other qualities.
You can dedicate a day where you simply cook with your partner and later watch a movie together snuggled up.
This doesn’t take too much effort.
It is simple.
If you discover that you had a good time doing it, this may open you up to trying more romance in the future.
You could start giving your partner a massage from time to time.
You don’t have to be the best at at.
However, you may discover over time that you enjoy it.
From here, you may even think about making it more intimate by setting up some candles or playing some light music in the background.
This is how you can get yourself and your partner even more into the moment.
These are just a few things you can try.
If you do them and you enjoy them, you may feel encouraged to continue by trying other romantic endeavors.
However, never force what isn’t really there.
If you really try your hand at being romantic and you are just not enjoying the experience, you may be better off letting it go and just being yourself.
Someone will appreciate that in you.
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