Well, clearly, your ex is not in love with you.
She would know if she was.
There would be no doubt in her mind.
She has already been with you in the past as your girlfriend.
She knew what being in love meant then.
She knew how it felt and the impression it left behind.
She remembers how she behaved when she was in love with you while she was in a relationship with you.
She remembers the excitement she felt whenever she thought about you and how much she looked forward to the next time she would see you.
She hasn’t suddenly forgotten the experience of being in love with you simply because she is your ex and is no longer in a relationship with you.
When she tells you that she knows that she loves you but doesn’t know if she’s in love with you, she typically means that she is not in love with you.
She is simply not getting those emotional bursts of excitement and adrenaline whenever she thinks about you now.
She is not constantly wondering what you are doing or whether you are thinking about her.
She doesn’t think about what a future would be like for the both of you.
She may still care about you because you were someone that she was in a relationship with.
However, she isn’t in love with you.
She may still care about your well-being.
She may want the best for you.
She may still appreciate some of the things you did for her when she was in a relationship with you.
She may be grateful for all of this.
You may have even been the best boyfriend she ever had.
These are just some of the reasons why she may have told you that she does love you.
However, you are simply not giving her that spark anymore.
Her thoughts are no longer wrapped up in you and just how good you make her feel.
In other words, she can live without you and still be okay with it.
She may miss some of your persona but she wouldn’t lose that much sleep over it.
As I mentioned earlier, an ex girlfriend who is truly in love with you would know that she is because she has more than likely already experienced what that felt like when she was in a relationship with you.
When she tells you that she doesn’t know if she is in love with you, she may be trying to let you down easy.
She may be unwilling to come right out with the truth.
Perhaps she believes that this would hurt you too much or it may cause a rift in whatever kind of relationship she has with you at the moment.
She may not want to put herself in that position.
If you notice that she seems to have moved on and is dating or talking to other guys, she may be showing you through her actions just how she truly feels without necessarily telling you.
Observe her behavior.
How often is she out dating other guys or flirting with them?
How often is she meeting up with her friends and just going out to party?
If she is constantly doing these things, she has clearly moved on mentally and is no longer in love with you.
You have to accept the strong possibility that your ex isn’t in love with you and move on.
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