You are too concerned with what your ex is up to.
When you are so consumed with what your ex is playing at, you will be more susceptible to missing him because he will be in your thoughts often.
The more you watch for what he is doing, the more you keep him in your thoughts. Try to be aware of this.
You will truly be unable to move on from your ex if you keep this up.
Do understand that even though you are missing him, the relationship is over.
This is a reality that you do have to come to terms with.
You have to understand that your break up with your ex happened for a reason.
You may be so focused on the good that came with the relationship that you are missing this reality.
This often happens when a person is no longer with a past partner.
You will remember the good times because this is where your brain will consciously take you.
You may be lonely or may have simply not found someone else who did it for you like he did. Hence, your brain begins to replay moments and events from your past relationship with him.
This lackluster love life that has followed your break up starts to influence the images that you envision in your mind.
You can remember how he made you feel when you first met.
You remember those passionate jitters you felt when you were around him.
You can feel it now. You feel all those goosebumps all over again.
You remember how affectionate he could be and how often he could use his words to make you melt.
Well, you are also forgetting the fact that he may have done you wrong in some way.
Perhaps this was all an act and he had given you a false picture of who he really was.
Even if the break up came about as a result of something you did, there was a reason for that too.
Perhaps your heart wasn’t really in the relationship as much as you were pretending it was from the beginning.
There may have been a part of you that knew that you weren’t getting certain needs met.
You may have stayed in the relationship out of convenience but your heart wasn’t entirely in it.
You may have even started dating him as a rebound from a previous relationship.
Perhaps you have been the kind who goes from relationship to relationship without much of a gap in-between.
You never resolve the issues that lead to your break ups because you are always in a hurry to get into a new relationship.
So, this guy may not have even been the right person for you in the first place but you got into a relationship with him because this is your pattern of behavior.
However, currently you are not in another relationship and have had time to think about your previous one.
This is when you start to miss him. No one else is yet to replace him.
To overcome this, you must start focusing on yourself.
Take some real time off from romantic relationships and really begin to work on growing as a person.
Learn something new about life and pursue a goal.
Let this be your focus for a while.
In time, you will discover that you no longer miss your ex and you have moved on.
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