Dating someone out of your league, as intimidating as it sounds, doesn’t mean that you should feel insecure about it within the relationship you are in.

There is a reason why that person has chosen to be with you even though you believe that she is out of your league.

Feeling insecure about it only makes you feel awkward and unsure of yourself in the relationship.

This makes you susceptible to hurting the power structure of the relationship, as it is influenced by this notion.

This is where you give her full control of the relationship, believing that she is doing you such a big favor in dating you.

This is honestly one of the worst approaches anyone can have when they are in a relationship.

You have to look at yourself as an equal in the relationship.

Be proud of what you bring to the relationship as an individual.

She isn’t doing you a favor by being with you.

You are both in this because you have found qualities in each other that you are drawn to.

Stop thinking that you are less than.

It is what leads to insecurity.

An insecurity that forces you to be constantly worried about how she feels about this or that.

You are so worried about losing this person who is out of your league that you acquiesce to everything that she wants.

You forget that you are also an important part of the relationship who has his own needs.

Instead, you let your partner get whatever or do whatever she wants.

This creates an imbalance in the relationship, resulting in a relationship where you are primarily serving her as opposed to serving each other.

Much of your thought process has to do with living in a society that has told you that a woman that looks like her is completely out of your league.

In media, you have primarily seen women that look like her on the cover of magazines and as the female lead in romance movies and TV sitcoms.

The epitome of beauty.

That’s got to mean that she is the definition of physical beauty.

You, on the other hand, never see anyone that resembles you used in media as the epitome of beauty.

Consequently, you believe that you aren’t worthy of being considered attractive.

Stop thinking like this.

The images that you have been fed through media all of your life are the media’s definition of beauty.

It isn’t yours nor is it the common person’s.

The common person has a wide range of preferences when it comes to physical attractiveness.

The range is eclectic in so many ways.

You couldn’t possibly know what the person you just met at the local diner considers to be the epitome of beauty.

Everyone has their own criteria for what they consider to be attractive.

In conclusion, don’t get caught up in what you have been force-fed by the media to believe is beauty.

Your partner sees beauty in you and that is what matters the most.

Be secure in that.