My Girlfriend Of 10 Months Wants Guy Friends Rather Than Lady Friends Because Of Less Drama. I’m Having A Hard Time Accepting It. Am I Overreacting?

There are quite a few girls who would rather have guy friends than lady friends.

My Girlfriend Of 10 Months Wants Guy Friends Rather Than Lady Friends Because Of Less Drama. I'm Having A Hard Time Accepting It. Am I Overreacting?This is what they are comfortable with.

It usually comes from a bad past experience with having lady friends.

There were several moments when those lady friends either betrayed her or spoke badly about her behind her back.

There was too much fighting about trivial issues or over-sensitivity.

This was her experience with having girls as friends.

Based on this, she chooses to have guy friends instead, believing that guys are less prone to drama or talking about her behind her back.

This isn’t the experience of every girl, but it is for a good number of them.

She made this decision based on the negative history she has had with keeping lady friends in the past.

It isn’t always about being the center of attention or having an endless array of prospective male suitors.

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This is where having an open conversation with her about this is critical.

Instead of making instant assumptions that she is seeking constant attention from said guy friends, you learn that her rationale is totally different.

She gives you detailed accounts of past grievances with lady friends that she has had.

If that is not enough, you get anecdotal accounts from her own guy friends who tell you about some of the hardships she has been through in the past by having lady friends.

This is her history and she is reacting to it by choosing to have guy friends instead.

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There are lots of girls who have close lady friends and maintain those relationships without drama.

But, this hasn’t been her experience.

Don’t make her out to be the bad guy because she would rather have guy friends than lady friends.

Take a step back and look in.

What do you see?

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She has guy friends that she cares about that were there before you ever started dating her.

Do you want her to change part of what makes her function on a daily basis to appease your sense of insecurity?

That isn’t smart.

You would be changing who she is.

This only leads to despair and unhappiness.

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If she is your girlfriend, you won’t be capable of accepting the fact that she has guy friends, unless you have absolute trust in her.

Do you?

If you can’t stand the thought of her having all these guy friends, she isn’t the girl for you.

She doesn’t want to lose her guy friends because you demand it.

Were she to do so, she would grow to detest you.

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Is that what you want?

Either trust her, or leave her.

The choice is yours.

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