Since you want to be loved, you are better off leaving your boyfriend and ending the relationship.
Your boyfriend is playing it safe by staying with you.
He is settling.
This means that he doesn’t invariably do things out of passion and desire.
He does them out of necessity or duty.
He is your boyfriend and he feels obligated to do nice things for you.
This makes you feel like you are being done a favor or that he is somehow appeasing you.
This feeling takes its toll on your psyche over a sustained period of time.
You never want to get to the point where it feels like your boyfriend is doing you a favor by being your boyfriend.
He is hanging out with you out of necessity or safety rather than in wanting to be there.
He says nice things to you, knowing that you want to hear those words but you know that he doesn’t mean them.
Staying with you by virtue of being a good woman isn’t enough when you are hoping to be loved in return.
You detest him.
He reminds you of how unloved you are every time you are with him and this leads to depression and unhappiness.
Suddenly, you act out.
You get angry with him on a regular basis without provocation.
You insult him to bring him down to your level.
You tune yourself off.
You are now at a place where you know that the love from him isn’t there so you simply make yourself numb to his advances.
In other words, you develop a buffer that is being used to guard your heart but at the same time is forcing you to be unloving.
This is a negative reaction and it is not healthy.
Figure out what is most important to you.
When the love isn’t there and it is something you want, you are better off ending your relationship with your boyfriend.
Don’t make the fallacy of staying in the relationship in the hopes that your boyfriend comes to love you like so many do.
This rarely happens.
Your boyfriend’s mindset isn’t intent on falling in love one day.
It is intent on simply existing with you and going through the motions in life.
It is not set on anything as powerful as love.
In some ways, he has resigned himself to simply being in a relationship of convenience.
This mindset isn’t open to love now or in the future.
It has worn out its energy.
If you want to be loved, end your relationship with your boyfriend and find someone else.
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