In telling you that it is not a serious relationship, he has told you what he feels.
In essence, he doesn’t see you as a long-term dating prospect.
He is not in love with you nor does he care about you the way you do him.
He has told you how he feels.
This is when the true test comes.
Can you accept that?
When you can, you assess what you want out of this and move forward.
If you can’t, you continue hoping that something changes.
You hope that he changes his mind and tell yourself that he is only telling you this because he hasn’t come to terms with his true feelings for you.
You make yourself believe that his true feelings are that of love and that he needs a little more time to finally accept that he loves you.
This is you forcing yourself to have hope in something that isn’t there.
This hope isn’t based on realistic evidence.
It is based on what you hope for and what you dream about from day to day.
The fact is, you can’t make him feel something for you that he doesn’t.
If he has told you that it is not a serious relationship, it isn’t.
He has been honest with you.
Are you going to accept it?
This is where the problem tends to be.
When you are reluctant to accept what he has told you.
This is you finding ways to be in denial.
Since you want more than what he is offering, you convince yourself that there is more to this than there is.
You attribute why he said this to a recent argument you had with him.
In essence, your reasoning is that he is reacting to the argument impulsively and doesn’t really mean what he said.
Take a good hard look at the type of relationship you have had with him until now.
Has he always been readily available?
Has he always communicated in a frequent and open fashion?
Has he always been open with you in terms of his likes and dislikes or what really makes him feel alive?
In looking back, you realize that he hasn’t always been readily available nor has he communicated in a frequent and open fashion.
Additionally, he has shown a degree of sensitivity and reluctance when it came to opening up to you about what he likes, dislikes or cares about.
These are signs of a guy who has never been eager to take the relationship to the next level.
The evidence has been there all along.
You chose to ignore them.
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