The guy takes a lot longer to respond to your messages when he doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
Consistent communication with you dramatically decreases, as he contacts you a lot less.
Then he stops initiating contact altogether and leaves that to you.
This means that he isn’t thinking about you as much during the day nor does he care to know how your day is going.
He hangs around you a lot less and rarely asks you out on dates, if at all.
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He commits to a meeting or a date with you, but he breaks that meeting and doesn’t follow through, coming up with an excuse that something came up or he isn’t feeling well.
In this scenario, the guy has reduced the amount of physical contact that he has with you.
He is not trying to be around you any longer.
If anything, he is actually avoiding you.
A guy doesn’t want to be with you anymore when he doesn’t make future plans with you included.
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When he rarely includes you in those plans, he doesn’t see a future with you.
He is essentially creating these plans without envisioning you as the person he has these experiences with.
You hear a lot of “I” and not a lot of “We.”
This is a very effective way to know that this guy doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
He does this without realizing he is.
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He doesn’t accept that his relationship with you is dying or dead.
There is a part of him in denial.
His words don’t lie.
When he is planning that holiday trip in December and he isn’t mentioning taking you with him, he doesn’t believe he will still be with you by December.
He knows this somewhere within him but keeps himself from accepting it.
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When he doesn’t talk about taking you to that concert or convention that he has been planning to go to for the whole year, he doesn’t see you in his future.
At this stage, he hasn’t accepted that he is feeling it.
A guy who doesn’t want to be with you anymore rarely raves about you to his friends, colleagues or family.
He rarely talks about you period.
He doesn’t bring you up as a topic of discussion unless he is asked or prompted.
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This is when he is showing his lack of caring.
When a guy rarely wants to talk about you, he most likely doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
He is showing a lack of effort in this area and that signifies he has lost the energy to keep the relationship going.
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I BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND AFTER A FEW MONTHS OF DATING BUT WE GOT BACK TOGETHER.WE HAD AN ARGUMENT 4 WEEKS AFTER RECONCILING.HE GOT ALL EMOTIONAL AND MENTIONED HE IS AFRAID I MIGHT BREAK UP WITH HIM AGAIN.IN SUMMATION HE WAS CONFUSED.AFTER THE END WE WERE OKAY.IN THE NEXT WEEK HE WAS BEING VERY SWEET MORE THAN USUAL AND JUST OUT OF THE BLUE HE BLOCKED MY TEXTS. HE DIDN’T KNOW MY FRIEND HAD HIS NUMBER AND WHEN SHE CHECKED HIS PROFILE DAYS LATER AFTER HE HAD BLOCKED ME HE HAD MY PICTURE PUT UP. I THOUGHT MAYBE BLOCKING MEANT HE JUST WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH ME BUT WHY PUT MY PICTURE. IS THERE HOPE OR I SHOULD JUS MOVE ON
Hi Mya,
He seems unsure of what to do about this relationship.
On the one hand, he may want to be with you and on the other, he may feel like it would be better to end it out of fear that he may have his heart broken.
If you feel that your relationship is worth salvaging, you may be better off trying to have an honest conversation with him in order to find out where his mind is at.
If he is merely blocking your texts out of fear, you may be able to assuage them by letting him know that you want this relationship to work and you are willing to put in the effort to do so.
However, if he is unable to give you a straight answer and just seems to be a muddle of emotions, you may be better off moving on.
OKAY THANKS FOR YOUR HELP
Hi
I am 55 and my date is 4 years my junior. Got a great 1st date for 3 hours, 9 days ago, where both were happy laughing. He asked me many questions and even asked to buy food back from the supermarket after the dinner. An hour after the date he text me as I gave him my contact when I reached the venue of the date. Text was to forward me the seminar he mentioned. I then replied to thank him as well as to say I was glad he returned home safe. No response. 2 days after I text him to ask if he was going for the upcoming seminar and he instantly text back saying he was not. 2 days after I accidentally called him via wats app. The next morning he text back to ask if I called and I told him it was an accident. We managed to chat for a while. Before the 1st date (2 weeks before 1st date) he was consistent and we chatted on every other day. But after the 1st date he seemed inconsistent though at the end of the 1st date he said he would bring me to the place I like and that I am an interesting person. He also drove me home. I went for many online dates and found him the only one who is suitable and I like him when I met him. Is he confused or a player?
Thank you.
Hi Wannan,
He may be a player. He isn’t as consistent in chatting with you now as when he was before the first date. Hence, he may be dating other women but still responding to you when you reach out, albeit belatedly, in order to keep you as an option just in case those other women don’t work out.
Thank you Luke.