Do People Who Set Off To Find “The One” And Only The One Ever Find It?

Do People Who Set Off To Find "The One" And Only The One Ever Find It?

Some people who set off to find “The One” do find it.

Some people don’t.

The term, “The One” means something totally different for you at different points in time.

This is why it is so crucial that you realize the danger of labeling anyone, “The One.”

You see, in labelling a person by this term, you are stating that this person is the one who meets your needs in about every sense forever and ever.

This is true for the stage of life in which you are currently in.

You could be at a totally different stage a year to ten years or more from now.

You change.

Your mindset changes.

Your emotional needs change.

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This is where so many people fail.

When you are so focused on finding the one that meets the needs that you have now, you forget that your needs do change in the near to distant future.

What happens then?

If your needs change, what use is this person?

They are no longer giving you what you need.

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What you need has changed.

Are they “The One” at this stage?

Unlikely.

Be careful about labeling anyone, “The One.”

In fact, you are better off not putting any labels on anyone.

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Instead, be with someone that you know is adaptable to change and a keen participant in it.

They have to be open minded in that sense and be game.

When you stick to that one person that is too rigid and only capable of meeting your needs today, they won’t be eager to make changes as time passes and your own needs change.

So, do some people find “The One” when they set off to find them?

Sure.

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However, can their needs totally change in the future, rendering the person that they once believed to be “The One” useless?

Yes.

Simply understand that as a human being, you are ever changing.

You are ever changing in both a physical and emotional sense.

The best person for you is a person who is accepting of change and adaptable.

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Your minds have to be on that level if you hope to make this last forever.

Your mindset should never be to apply labels on someone.

The danger of doing that is that you put yourself and the person you are with in a box.

Unfortunately, with time, that box gets smaller and smaller as your needs change.

Eventually, it is incapable of containing you.

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Now what?

You are stuck with someone that doesn’t get you anymore.

You are stuck with someone who can’t comprehend where your heart and mind are.

They are stuck in the past, trying to appeal to the “you” of old.

That “you” of old is gone.

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The more you avoid putting labels on anyone and acknowledge the inevitability of change, the more likely you are to find the best partner for you.

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