She is rejecting you.
Whether it is a kind way by which she is going about it or not, is left to you to interpret.
You want to look at it as kindly so that you don’t feel so bad about it.
You want to get her off the hook.
Listen, however which way you choose to deal with your reality is up to you, but in this particular instance, she was rejecting you.
It isn’t out of the question that she just got out of a bad relationship.
She knew the relationship was bad long before it was over.
In the relationship’s final dying weeks or months, she had already moved on mentally, knowing it wasn’t going anywhere.
There were no surprises when it did end.
By telling you that she wanted to focus on being single for a while, she left all of this open-ended.
It wasn’t open-ended in a good way.
How long is focusing on being single going to last?
You don’t know.
She never gave you an idea.
She essentially didn’t give you any room to maneuver.
Listen, I am not saying that she isn’t genuinely trying to recover from a bad relationship.
If she was firmly interested in you, she would have given you a lot more than what she did.
By telling you that she wanted to focus on being single for a while, she never followed up by telling you that she would love to slowly get to know you during this process.
She told you something that had no real conclusion.
That “while” that she is speaking of last for months or a day.
You suddenly see her walking around with someone new the next time you are in her presence.
It is Roy, who is one of her closest friends or someone she went to High School with.
He is comforting her at this difficult time.
She does know how Roy feels about her.
She knows that Roy has had a crush on her ever since they were classmates in High School.
Why talk to Roy now?
If she was sincere about wanting this time to be single, she would be solely absorbed on herself and leaning on her friends to help her move forward.
This is where she draws support from, not Roy.
Nevertheless, Roy is what she needs right now to help her forget what just happened.
Roy notices this.
Roy asks her out and she ultimately agrees.
It didn’t take her long to get to this point.
In conclusion, read between the lines.
When she doesn’t make any genuine attempt to build a relationship with you, she is not interested.
She knows that you like her but she doesn’t feel the same way about you.
In using her past relationship as an excuse, her intent was for you to sympathize with her and let her be.
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