She is rejecting you.
Whether it is a kind way by which she is going about it or not is left to you to interpret.
You may want to look at it as kindly so that you don’t feel so bad about it.
You may want to get her off the hook.
Listen, however which way you choose to deal with your reality is up to you but in this particular instance, she was rejecting you.
She may indeed have gotten out of a bad relationship.
However, there is a good chance that she knew the relationship was bad long before it was over.
In other words, she may have already moved on mentally while she was still in the relationship because she knew that it wasn’t going anywhere.
Hence, there should have been no surprises when it did end.
By telling you that she wanted to focus on being single for a while, she left all of this open-ended.
However, it wasn’t open-ended in a good way.
How long is focusing on being single going to last?
You don’t know.
She never gave you an idea.
She essentially didn’t give you any room to maneuver.
Listen, I am not saying that she isn’t genuinely trying to recover from a bad relationship.
However, if she was truly interested in you, she would have given you a lot more than what she did.
By telling you that she wanted to focus on being single for a while, she never followed up by telling you that she would love to slowly get to know you during this process.
She merely told you something that had no real conclusion.
That “while” that she is speaking of could last months or a day.
In other words, you could see her walking around with someone new the next time you see her.
Sure, it may be Roy, who is one of her closest friends or someone she went to High School with.
He may be comforting her at this difficult time.
However, she does know how Roy feels about her.
She knows that Roy has had a crush on her ever since they were classmates in High School.
Why would she talk to Roy now?
If she was truly sincere on wanting this time to be single, she would be solely focused on herself and perhaps be leaning on what her female friends can do to help her move forward.
This is where she would be drawing support from, not Roy.
However, Roy may be what she needs right now to help her forget what just happened.
Roy notices this.
Roy asks her out and she ultimately agrees.
It didn’t take her long to get to this point.
In conclusion, you have to be able to read into what she meant.
When she doesn’t make any real attempt to build a relationship with you, she is not interested.
She knows that you like her but she doesn’t feel the same way about you.
She also knows that if she were to use her past relationship as an excuse, you may be able to sympathize and let her be.
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