My Boyfriend And I Have A Lack Of Things To Say While Communicating And I Don’t Know How To Solve This Problem?

My Boyfriend And I Have A Lack Of Things To Say While Communicating And I Don't Know How To Solve This Problem?

Have new escapades together so that you have new topics to talk about.

When you only stick to doing the same activities as a couple, it results in a lack of things to say while communicating in your down time.

There is a deficiency in conversational topics.

Take the initiative to make things interesting.

Do activities together that you have never done before.

Meet new people who aren’t in your everyday social circle.

Put yourself in new environments.

Travel somewhere together.

Learn a new skill or pastime together.

Take a new class together.

Go out on walks together instead of taking the car.

Be proactive and aggressive in doing this.

Suggesting these activities to your boyfriend doesn’t guarantee he follows through in doing them.

Due to familiarity, relationships become lackadaisical over time.

This is when partners get lazy.

They don’t have the desire to try something new, having gotten too content in the relationship.

This is where you transform into the motivator.

Instead of purely suggesting what you can do together as an activity, set them up yourself.

Plan them out.

Tell him that you are taking a walk together that day.

Tell him the exact time this walk is going to occur and where it is headed.

The more specific you are with these plans, the more effective you are in getting your boyfriend to follow through.

Buy that three-week class course in photography, cooking, painting, etc., and tell him when it starts.

Buy that ticket to the next social event that is happening in town that you have both never been to and tell him the exact day that is is happening.

Book that trip somewhere out of town for the weekend and tell your boyfriend where you two are staying and what sights you are seeing.

Make bold and decisive moves.

Your boyfriend feels no real desire to take action unless he sees that you are serious.

When you are this aggressive and bold, you foster change in your relationship.

As you perform these new activities with your boyfriend, you create new and interesting topics to talk about.

You no longer have a lack of things to say while communicating, being that you have these shared activities to talk about.

Be ready for resistance and frustration from your boyfriend.

You are going to be tempted to either get upset with your boyfriend or give up trying.


Change is not a pill taken lightly.

Forcing change is difficult, considering people don’t want to do the work.

When you are patient and persistent, you increase the odds of getting your boyfriend to change, which solves this communication problem.


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