Keep living your life.

Steer clear of the temptation to hover around your phone waiting for a phone call or a text.

Don’t stop living the life you were living before that first date.

People make the mistake of doing too much or too little after the first date.

They wonder how they should act.

They either end up overdoing it, making themselves appear to be too overzealous, or they do too little, worried about how they would be perceived.

Listen, if you had a good first date, a second one occurring in the foreseeable future is a good bet.

This being said, having a good first date isn’t mutual in every case.

You believed that the first date was great and the chemistry was there, but this doesn’t mean that the other person on the date felt likewise.

Even though the outward appearances seemed as such, you don’t know what was going on within the person.

That being said, there is cause for optimism, as long as you don’t obsess over how this is all going to play out.

Obsessing is what leads to one party forcing their hand, hoping to push the relationship in their preferred direction.

This never works, as it leads to a lopsided courtship, with one party unhappy about the unnatural pace.

If you weren’t the one who asked for the first date, you could be asked for a second one by the person who did the initiating within the next few days.

Nevertheless, don’t be afraid to take the initiative.

If you weren’t the one who asked for the first date and you feel that the first date went well, there is nothing wrong with being the one who asks for a second.

Return the favor.

This period after the first date is great for following up on what was discussed on the first date.

This is how you continue building chemistry with this person in-between dates, by keeping the conversation going naturally.

Since you are following up on conversations from the first date, you are reminding this person about the first date.

If they enjoyed the first date, anything that reminds them about it puts them in a good mood and they have a greater desire to go out on another.

This is how this rapport building leads to a suggestion for a second date from this person.

It happens mutually upon reaching an appropriate moment in the courtship.

This is where it is natural to want to see each other again and have further interesting face to face conversations.

You mutually yearn for it, as wonderful memories from the first date are increasingly poignant in your minds.

In conclusion, be calm and be yourself after the first date.

Continue living your life.

Go with what feels natural and not forced.

Let the courtship flow naturally without placing too much emphasis on what should be done now.

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