Assuming that your ex doesn’t make a habit of this, your ex threw the pens and paper at you for a unique reason.

Your ex was reacting to negative emotion.

There is something that your ex wants from you that they aren’t getting.

They struggle to divulge what that is.

Your ex is hoping that you know what it is.

Given your past relationship together, they believe that you should know what it is.

In disappointment or despair, your ex threw the pens and paper at you.

Think back to your previous relationship with this ex.

Think about the arguments you used to have.

Is there a similar pattern to these arguments and what they were about?

This is where the problem lies.

It is likely that those issues never got resolved.

You believed they were, but they weren’t.

Think about what incident led to the breakup.

What was it?

There is a good chance that this incident was tied to the past arguments.

Your ex wants to get this past issue of contention resolved.

Your ex believes that there were a lot of good things about your pairing.

They enjoyed being in the relationship and felt that there was a lot more good there than bad.

However, this peculiar issue was never resolved.

You didn’t help to make it so.

This wasn’t wholly your fault.

Your ex has a hand in this too, being that they were the other part of the relationship.

They did bear half the responsibility.

Notwithstanding, your ex is casting the bulk of the onus on you, believing that you should have been the one to make this issue right.

They didn’t want to assume the responsibility of doing this.

In throwing pens and paper at you, they want you to assume this responsibility and fix the issue.

They want you to do this, knowing that they want get back with you.

As I mentioned earlier, there were several parts of your previous relationship that they liked.

They found a lot of good in that relationship that outweighed the bad.

Nevertheless, they want this specific issue resolved so that they get to restart this relationship and move it forward.

Your ex is reacting to emotion.

I am assuming that this was a one-time incident.

If this was the case, it was powered by emotion and desire.

Your ex probably cares about you, even loves you.

They want the relationship to happen once more, but to facilitate this, they want you to take control of the situation and help fix the previous issues.

They want you to acknowledge that a relationship can happen again, as long as you help resolve the issues.

The question is, do you want your ex back?