I know that anniversaries are critical to you.
You aren’t alone in this sentiment.
That being said, anniversaries aren’t that significant to everyone.
You didn’t get a reply, as this is a person who doesn’t put that much meaning to anniversaries.
It seems callous and unfeeling.
This is how this person operates and thinks.
This person received your message and initially thought about replying, but didn’t.
They decided against it, knowing that the moment they replied, they open the floodgates.
You come at them with a variety of questions.
So, what are we doing for our anniversary?
You remember where we first met?
Do you remember what we first talked about?
Remember what I was wearing?
What are you getting me for our anniversary?
Can you believe we are on our first anniversary?
Oh, what are we doing again for our anniversary?
Since it’s our first, don’t you think it should be special?
On and on you go.
You see, in your mind, this is normal.
You acknowledge anniversaries and truly believe that they are a special occasion.
You believe that this is a milestone in a relationship and it should be recognized.
This person on the other hand believes that the moment they acknowledge the anniversary and reply to your message, there are now so many expectations of them.
They have to act happy and cheery when in fact this anniversary day is like any other for them.
In fear of what replying to your message leads to, they choose not to reply.
Anniversaries have been a big deal in all your prior relationships.
Anniversaries signify an acknowledgment of your love for each other but also allows you to look forward to the future and more anniversaries.
When you look at all of this from the angel of how you normally think, it’s difficult to see where this person is coming from.
It is hard for you to fathom why this person doesn’t put as much meaning or weight on anniversaries.
Anniversaries make them nervous.
Whenever an anniversary is coming up, they feel like there is all this pressure to do something or celebrate.
They get anxious about this pressure and react by not acknowledging it or replying.
This is how they deal with it.
An anniversary is a negative experience for them, while for you, an anniversary is positive and uplifting.
If this is a person you are currently in a relationship with, take note of where they are coming from mentally.
Not replying to your anniversary message doesn’t necessarily mean that they no longer care about you or no longer want to be in a relationship with you.
You need to give them some time to get used to the idea of being in a long-term relationship with you.
Yes, it has been a year.
Nonetheless, some people need even more time to acknowledge that this is a relationship they intend to be in for a long time.
In accepting this, they are more responsive on your second anniversary.
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