Saying sorry is a cover for a lack of interest.
A girl that continuously tells you sorry when she is can’t to make a date that was already planned or takes a lot of time to respond to your text or phone message, isn’t interested in you.
Saying sorry is an easy fallback for people.
They can use it to get out of certain situations where they know that they were at fault.
It is not always a situation where they know that they were at fault due to something that unexpectedly happened and was beyond their control.
She already knew what she was doing in purposely not returning your messages in a timely manner.
She knew that she was going to find a way to get out of the date that you both already had planned for the weekend.
Her plan was to find a way to conveniently forget that you have been trying to find out what her availability is while telling you that she will check her schedule and get back with you.
When you hear repeated use of the word “sorry” in circumstances like this, she is not interested in you and is unfortunately stringing you along.
She hasn’t told you about her disinterest in you, hoping you get the hint and stop pursuing her.
She has probably used this method in the past with other guys who have liked her and it worked.
It has probably been the easiest way for her to get out of situations with guys that she isn’t interested in.
She believes that all she has to keep doing is say she is sorry as she flakes on dates or takes days to return your messages, and you will finally stop trying, without her having to be outright and honest about her disinterest in you.
Her emotions are on a roller coaster.
There are moments during her exchanges with you that she exceedingly enjoyed.
She loved the last conversation and what you had to say.
That moment was grand and thrilling.
While she was in that moment, she felt like she would be interested in going on that date with you or in hearing from you again and having another meaningful conversation.
Notwithstanding, once that conversation was over, she was no longer feeling that excitement.
She is now back to feeling normal again.
At this point, she is not as excited as she was when she was having said conversation with you.
She has suddenly gotten bored.
She artificially reconstructs the excitement that she had when she was in the moment with you, but try as she does, she can’t.
With a deficit of enthusiasm or desire, she decides to tell you sorry.
She believes this “sorry” is temporary.
After all, she did feel that excitement with you when she was conversing.
The next time she has a meaningful conversation with you, that excitement returns.
That feeling of excitement continues to wane with each consequent conversation with you.
So she keeps saying sorry and the cycle continues.
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