If you broke up with your boyfriend, it’s crucial that you allow yourself to understand the reasons why you did it.
It is easy to get caught up in doubt and worry. This is all normal and tends to happen to most people in your situation.
You begin to wonder if you did the right thing. You may fear that you have made the wrong decision.
You may even start wondering if you will find someone like your boyfriend and be able to love again.
Understand that if you broke up with your boyfriend, you probably did so because you felt that this was the best thing to do.
Perhaps your emotional needs weren’t being met. Perhaps you thought that there was simply no future in the relationship.
You may have even come to realize that you weren’t truly in love with your boyfriend and more so in love with the prospect of what it would be like if you had him as a boyfriend.
There could be a multitude of reasons why you decided to break up with your boyfriend.
Do remember and accept them.
Now, if you are really unsure of what to do now, start focusing on building an exciting and multifaceted life.
There is so much to life than merely sitting around wondering if you made the right decision in breaking up with your boyfriend or if your boyfriend feels bad for breaking up with you.
What are you passionate about? What do you want to do in life?
What are you curious about learning?
This is your opportunity to engage in all or some of that.
Start expanding your horizons and learning.
The more engaged you are in different activities, the less likely you will keep thinking about your break up.
You won’t be so mentally distracted by your break up because you would be preoccupied with building your life and infusing it with new energy.
Now, you really need to be very sure and cautious of what you do at this stage.
Oftentimes, when someone breaks up, they may feel the need to remain attached to that person by constantly checking to see what that person is doing in social media or where they may be hanging out or even who they may be hanging out with.
The more involved you are in this other person’s life, the less likely you are to move forward.
This becomes a major problem because you are still stuck on your ex boyfriend.
You may be broken up with him but you haven’t really allowed yourself to move on.
This is something very common that you really have to be aware of. You may not even realize that you are doing it.
You may not realize that you keep checking on him, watching what he is doing on social media or which new girl he may be talking to.
If you keep doing this, you will never move forward with your life.
You will stay in limbo and uncertainty. This isn’t the best course of action for you.
Move forward and engage. Make your life fun and full.
This will enable you to move forward so that you are no longer unsure of what to do.
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