Ask him to do an activity with you on whatever day you have chosen.

It is always good to use your previous conversations with this guy as your guide.

When you have found something in common with this guy, discovered through your messages with him, use that as your activity.

Now you know where to go.

Perhaps you discovered that you both have a love for a particular brand of ice cream or yogurt.

You could ask him via message to share that ice cream or yogurt experience with you on a specific day and in a specific time frame.

You have to be as clear and obvious as possible.

The problem that a lot of girls face in your situation is in how vague they get.

Instead of coming right out with a definitive activity, as well as a date and time frame for that date, they will be vague about their intentions.

They send the guy a message asking him what his plans are for the weekend.

They send the guy a message asking him about what he loves to do with his free time but they never take it any further than that.

They send the guy a message telling him where they will be on Friday just hoping that the guy responds by telling them that they will stop by there as well.

In other words, they try to drop hints or make insinuations without asking the guy out directly and unequivocally.

Don’t be this kind of girl.

You will have the best results when you are clear with a guy about your intentions and what you want to do with him.

When you ask him out via message, be clear and concise.

Don’t use too many sentences. Also, don’t initially go off on some kind of tangent conversationally.

You can easily start going off on a tangent of a conversation, afraid of what you really want to ask him.

Instead of sending a short and clear message asking him out, you send him paragraphs of irrelevant discussion.

You initially begin with trying to have a conversation in the hopes that eventually, should it feel right, you stir the conversation into asking him out.

In procrastinating, a mistake has already been made.

You could lose his attention by the time you are ready to finally do the asking out.

These are just delay tactics that aren’t going to help you.

I know that you are nervous about doing this, but remember that you will feel a lot worse if you later discover that he is dating someone else.

You never seized the opportunity to ask him out via message and now you have lost him.

Is that what you want?

Of course it isn’t.

You are better off sending him a clear message asking him out than procrastinating or trying to find the appropriate time.

The appropriate time is now.

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