Ask him out to do an activity with you on a mutually chosen day, after using your previous conversations with this guy as your guide.

When you have found something in common with this guy, discovered through your messages with him, use that as your activity.

Now you know where to go.

You discovered that you mutually have a love for a particular brand of ice cream or yogurt.

Ask him via message to share that ice cream or yogurt experience with you on a specific day, and in a specific time frame.

You have to be as clear and obvious as possible.

The problem that a lot of girls face in your situation is in how vague they get.

Instead of coming right out with a definitive activity, as well as a date and time frame for that date, they are vague about their intentions.

They send the guy a message asking him what his plans are for the weekend.

They send the guy a message asking him about what he loves to do with his free time but they never take it any further than that.

They send the guy a message telling him where they will be on Friday, hoping that the guy responds by telling them that they will stop by there as well.

In other words, they try to drop hints or make insinuations without asking the guy out directly and unequivocally.

Don’t be this kind of girl.

You get the best results when you are clear with a guy about your intentions and what you want to do with him.

When you ask him out via message, be clear and concise.

Don’t use too many sentences.

Avoid going off on a tangent conversationally.

Going off on a tangent in conversation, instigates a greater fear in you to ask him what you want.

Instead of sending a short and clear message asking him out, you send him paragraphs of irrelevant discussion.

You initially begin with having a conversation with him hoping that eventually, should it feel right, you stir the conversation into asking him out.

In procrastinating, a mistake has already been made.

You are at risk of losing his attention by the time you are ready to finally do the asking out.

These are just delay tactics that aren’t going to help you.

I know that you are nervous about doing this, but remember that you will feel a lot worse if you later discover that he is dating someone else.

You never seized the opportunity to ask him out via message and now you have lost him.

Is that what you want?

Of course it isn’t.

You are better off sending him a clear message asking him out than procrastinating or trying to find the appropriate time.

The appropriate time is now.