You have to know what your level of tolerance is and what you can handle.
The danger of dating someone who has a baby when you aren’t ready or when you aren’t sure is that you could end up ruining the relationship or taking it to places that could affect you psychologically.
If you just simply tell yourself that you like this person and will just date them regardless of the fact that this person has a baby, you haven’t thought things through.
You have to be honest with yourself.
Don’t allow how much you like this person to cloud your judgment on what you should do next.
You have to able to take a step away from this situation and ponder it.
How will you be able to handle a little baby in the mix of all of this?
A little baby comes with a lot of responsibility.
You won’t only be dating this person but you will also be dealing with the baby.
There will be moments when plans have to be postponed because the baby’s needs came first.
There will be moments when you may be dealing with complaints from this person about the other biological parent in the equation.
You may even have to deal with the other biological parent and their family.
This baby may demand a lot more of this person’s time than you are willing to tolerate.
This baby could become a wedge between where you want the relationship to go and where it is.
In other words, you may find it difficult to move the relationship forward if the baby is an issue.
For example, if you wanted to move somewhere that you considered would be good for your career, future or relationship, this other person may be unable to do it because they would be moving away from the baby.
There is just so much for you to consider before taking the step of dating this person on a serious level.
You can’t allow your emotions to get the best of you and get into a situation that you simply can’t handle.
This is why you need to take a step back and really think through this before dating this person.
You should also consider what kind of life you want to have with this person.
If you want to have your own babies in the future, would you be okay with someone who has already had one?
Some couples like to be the first.
They want to have babies as first time parents together and have that shared experience.
You won’t have that with this person.
This person would have already been a parent.
Is that alright by you?
As I mentioned earlier, a baby is a lot of responsibility.
Consider the kind of relationship you want to have with this person.
If you are unable to sacrifice the time away from this person due to their baby’s needs or being lower on that person’s priority list, you may be better off not dating this person.
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