Know what your level of tolerance is and what you can handle.
The danger of dating someone who has a baby when you aren’t ready, or when you aren’t sure, is that you could end up ruining the relationship, or taking it to places that affect you psychologically.
Stubbornly telling yourself that you like this person and intend to date them regardless of the fact that they have a baby, is a sign you haven’t thought things through.
You have to be honest with yourself.
Don’t allow how much you like this person to cloud your judgment on what you should do next.
Take a step away from this situation and ponder.
How will you be able to handle a little baby in the mix of all of this?
A little baby comes with a lot of responsibility.
You won’t only be dating this person, but having to grapple with complications in association with the baby.
Moments when plans have to be postponed, as the baby’s needs came first.
Moments when you are hearing complaints from this person about the other biological parent in the equation.
You have to deal with the other biological parent and their family.
This baby demands a lot more of this person’s time than you are can tolerate.
This baby becomes a wedge between where you want the relationship to go and where it is.
In other words, you find it difficult to move the relationship forward when the baby is an issue.
For example, if you wanted to move somewhere you considered would be good for your career, future or relationship, this person is unable to do it, being that they would be moving away from their baby.
There is just so much for you to consider before taking the step of dating this person on a serious level.
You can’t allow your emotions to get the best of you and get into a situation that you simply can’t handle.
This is why you need to take a step back and think through this before dating this person.
You should also consider what kind of life you want to have with this person.
Should you want to have your own babies in the future, are okay with someone who has already had one?
Some couples like to be the first.
They want to have babies as first-time parents together and have that shared experience.
You won’t have that with this person.
This person would have already been a parent.
Is that alright by you?
As I mentioned earlier, a baby is a lot of responsibility.
Consider the kind of relationship you want to have with this person.
An inability to sacrifice the time away from this person due to their baby’s needs, or being lower on that person’s priority list, leaves you better off not dating this person.
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