When she tells you that she does want to meet up but ends up telling you that she isn’t sure when you ask about when she is free, she is leading you on.
Unfortunately, she already knows that she isn’t interested in you romantically.
Somewhere along the line, her interest in you either waned, or it was never really there.
In telling you that she isn’t sure as often as she has, she is hoping that you get the picture and stop asking her.
She doesn’t want to come right out and tell you that she isn’t interested.
This is too direct for her liking.
She fears how you react to that or doesn’t want to make herself out to be the bad guy in all this.
As long as she continues to tell you that she wants to meet up but doesn’t commit to a when, she isn’t exactly turning you down and she gets to play it safe.
A girl who is truly interested in a guy isn’t going to make him wait.
She makes herself available for dates and anticipates what it would be like to date the guy.
She talks to her friends about him and checks out what he is up to on social media.
That guy is frequently in her thoughts and it is hard for her to think about much else.
This is oftentimes what a girl does when she is keenly interested in a guy.
In your case, she doesn’t think about you often.
When she tells you that she isn’t sure when she is free to meet up, she hasn’t been thinking about it.
She has totally forgotten about the conversation you had with her.
In reality, she has forgotten she told you she would like to meet up.
That conversation to her was platonic in nature.
When you mentioned a meet-up, she told you she wanted to do it out of politeness or a desire to keep the conversation pleasant.
She didn’t think through what she said.
She responded in that way to avoid any negativity in the conversation, hoping that you move on from that topic to something else, so as to end the conversation on a pleasant note.
Now that you are asking her about when she is free to meet, she realizes that you were taking her seriously.
She realizes that you did not ask her this in passing but you were actually serious.
Now it has gotten real for her and she begins to get a little weary.
She never actually meant it.
She was just making conversation with you and hoping to keep it pleasant.
Now she sees that you were serious and she has to find ways to avoid the topic altogether.
She tells you she is not sure when she can meet, realizing she has gotten herself into a sensitive situation that she doesn’t quite know how to get out of.
She keeps telling you that she isn’t sure until she has either come up with a way to tell you directly that she isn’t interested or hopes that you get the picture and quit asking her.
This wait fosters false hope, which isn’t good.
Do yourself a favor.
Recognize the message she is sending you through her lack of action and accept that as a sign of no interest.
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