When you ask out a coworker and she doesn’t tell you yes, she is not interested in you.
It is unlikely that you will have a chance down the road with her either.
A coworker is going to know if she wants to go out with you or not.
You are already someone that she is familiar with because you both work at the same place.
It’s not like you are a stranger who just stepped up to her at the mall.
There is some familiarity here which also means that she would feel relatively safe around you.
Thereby, she wouldn’t have any fears about who you are because she is already acquainted with you or at least knows you through work.
When she doesn’t give you a straight no but doesn’t say yes either to being asked out, she is actually giving you a no.
She may not be willing to be as direct as she should be so that you get the picture.
Some girls are unwilling to do this because they are afraid of hurting the guy’s feelings or they are simply too worried about confrontation.
Instead of giving you a direct answer, they dance around the subject but never actually give it to you straight.
You as the guy are then left scratching your head, trying to figure her out and what her response meant.
Most girls who are really into a guy or are interested in a guy would not hesitate once they are asked out by that guy.
They would give him a yes relatively fast and would then proceed with creating availability.
Your coworker is most likely not interested in you.
She may have also avoided giving you a straight answer because she works with you and has to see you everyday or cross paths with you at work from time to time.
She may not want to put herself in a position where she has to feel awkward every time she comes to work and knows that she is going to see you.
She may not want to have to deal with that kind of stress every single time she comes to work.
By not giving you a straight yes or no, she has seemingly left the door open without denying you.
However, she may have done so just so that she doesn’t create a strain in your relationship with her at work.
She didn’t directly tell you no, so you may not feel hostility towards her.
She didn’t directly tell you yes, so you may feel like perhaps you have a chance at some point in time in the future and as a result, due to this hope, you continue being civil with her.
It is a win win for her.
She gets to feel like she doesn’t have to face any awkwardness at work, while in the back of your mind, you have hope that she may give you a chance down the road because she didn’t give you a straight no.
However, the facts are clear.
Your coworker did not give you a yes.
This means she is not interested in you.
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