She is setting a time limit so that you don’t think she has fallen for you too soon.
It’s how she protects herself or creates a buffer to guard her heart.
She had a previous relationship that ended badly.
She gave this person so much of her time and heart, only to have him hurt and betray her.
This left her cautious, not wanting to be that vulnerable again.
She sets time limits with you in response to that experience.
Again, she is protecting herself in these instances.
She doesn’t want to allow herself to get too deeply involved too early in your interaction with her.
She wants to set the tone for the meet-ups that you have with her so that you don’t instantly believe she is all into you.
Your company is amazing.
She loves it and finds herself constantly not wanting the meet-up to end. So she stays longer, giving in to her ever-increasing desire to be around you.
There is a part of her that keeps wanting to stick with the time limit during the meet-ups, but she is having a good time and this makes it difficult.
She gets worried she is acting like she did in her previous relationships, giving you too much of her time.
What comes next is inevitable.
She develops feelings for you too soon.
This is what she is trying to avoid, but she can’t help herself.
Each meet-up gets longer, as she adds a few more minutes.
Those minutes become stretched out, as she continues to enjoy your company.
After those extra minutes have passed, she decides to give you just a few more just so that you can finish that thought.
Those few minutes have now stretched to a half hour or more.
This is a girl who is wrestling with her feelings.
On the one hand, she is enjoying her time spent with you and wants it to last longer than the time limit that she sets.
On the other hand, she is being really cautious and doesn’t want to appear as though she is overeager.
She sets these time limits, not quite sure if she wants to be in a romantic relationship at this time.
She is single but is wondering whether she wants to jeopardize her freedom.
So she schedules various activities on the same day of your meet-up so that she isn’t tempted to stay longer.
It doesn’t work.
During the meet-up, she has such a great time she figures she can delay that shopping trip she had planned with her girlfriend for after the meet-up.
Ultimately, if she continues loving your company, she loosens the time limits incrementally until she isn’t putting a time limit at all.
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