Rescheduling Dates : How Many Times Before You Call It Quits?

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Rescheduling Dates : How Many Times Before You Call It Quits?

When a person keeps rescheduling dates, they are not interested in you.

To reschedule dates over and over again without complying is not a good sign.

It typically insinuates that this other person has other things that they are more interested in doing than in spending quality time with you.

It means that they have no real respect for your time and hence have very little respect for you.

There is a strong layer of selfishness when someone continues to reschedule dates and never or rarely follows through.

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I know that it can be very difficult to accept that this person would be so uncaring and uninterested.

I know that this is especially difficult when you really like this person.

However, you do need to understand the reality of your situation.

A good way to do this is to put yourself in the other person’s position.

If you were constantly rescheduling dates with someone, would you be showing signs of interest or disinterest towards that person?

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Be honest with yourself for a moment.

What would it mean if you were the one who was doing the majority of the rescheduling?

It would typically mean that you really have no interest or you feel like you could be doing better activities with your time.

You reschedule because you may simply have no tact and you don’t know how to go about telling this person that you are not truly interested in them.

So you continue rescheduling dates over and over again in the hopes that this person will ultimately get tired of it, get the picture that you are not interested and just move on.

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You may also reschedule because something better has come along and you would rather engage in that activity than go out with this person.

Though something better has come along, you aren’t sure what you will be up to the following week and you want a back up plan, so you schedule yet another date.

In the back of your mind, you hope that something else will come up that you would rather do than meet this person.

If that happens, you are rescheduling yet again.

You may also reschedule because you feel like this other person has a much higher level of interest than you do.

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You don’t believe that you can match it.

However, you love the kind of attention that they are giving you.

The attention makes you feel good about yourself.

When you reschedule those dates, you are trying to make the other person feel like there is a chance just so that they keep giving you the attention that you are becoming accustomed to.

You are not quite ready to completely let that person go because you don’t want to let go of that attention.

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However, the reality is that you truly know that you don’t feel for this person the way that they feel for you.

You know that this whole thing isn’t really going to lead anywhere.

Ultimately, you never make the date or barely make any because you know that this would be taking things to a level that means you are just as serious about them as they are you.

However, you aren’t.

This is what it is like when you are on the other end of this scenario doing the rescheduling.

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If this person has rescheduled more than twice, let them go and move on.

Do not accept anymore attempts at rescheduling.

It would be a waste of your time.