When you’re angry with someone, it isn’t unusual to act out in a fashion you end up regretting.
You say words or phrases you don’t mean or make yourself believe things that aren’t true.
You do everything in your power to justify why you were upset and said harsh words to this person, so as not to feel so bad about yourself.
It takes days, months or years.
Inevitably, you come to regret what you did.
You look back and think that you were in the wrong for how you reacted.
This comprehension makes it arduous for you to move forward with your life.
You find yourself constantly thinking about that moment and wondering how it could have gone better.
You replay the incident in your mind and keep trying to undo it somehow.
Nonetheless, you can’t undo it, it has already happened.
In a moment of regret, you try to contact that person that you were angry at.
This person has now moved on and would rather not talk to you.
You struggle to get a hold of them, having lost touch.
At this stage, you get obsessive.
You start seeking this person out on social media or try to reconnect with people you know this person was acquainted with.
You are now a person on a mission.
A mission that leads to further disappointment, as you can’t find this person, or you do, and this person wants nothing to do with you, or has moved on with their lives.
Why put yourself through this?
It isn’t worth it.
It isn’t worth it to come back to this moment in the future with a heavy heart.
When you are angry with someone, do everything in your power to remain kind to that person.
You don’t have to communicate right away.
Take time out for yourself to get yourself back together.
Work on a hobby, catch a movie, go to the beach, read a book, exercise, etc.
Do whatever you have to in order to prevent yourself from acting irrationally.
When you are angry at someone, take a step back and look at the problem from that person’s perspective.
I know this is onerous, especially when you believe you were the one who was wronged.
Take a step back and look at the situation from the other person’s perspective.
This is how you get to deduce the reasons why they acted like they did.
You get to see where they were coming from, irrespective of whether you like it or not.
This gives you perspective and helps you avoid saying or doing something to this person that you regret later.
Having a wider perspective opens you up to gaining further insight into who you are as a person and your temperament.
Use this moment to learn more about how you should go about handling a situation like this in the future.
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