When you’re angry with someone, you may act out in a way that you will regret later.
You may say things that you don’t really mean or make yourself believe things that aren’t necessarily true.
You will do everything in your power to either justify why you were upset and said harsh words to this person just so that you don’t feel so bad about yourself.
However, what often happens is that you will eventually come to regret what you did.
It may take days, months or even years.
However, at some point, you may look back and think that you were in the wrong for how you reacted.
This understanding may make it very difficult for you to move forward with your life.
You may find yourself constantly thinking about that moment and wondering how it could have gone better.
You may replay the incident in your mind and keep trying to undo it somehow.
However, you can’t undo it, it has already happened.
Perhaps in a moment of regret you try to contact that person that you were angry at.
Perhaps this person has now moved on and would rather not talk to you.
You may not even be able to get a hold of them.
You may have lost touch and have no idea how to get in contact with them.
At this point, you become obsessive.
You start seeking this person out on social media or try to reconnect with people you know this person was acquainted with.
You are now a person on a mission.
A mission that may ultimately lead to even more disappointment because you either can’t find this person or you do and this person wants nothing to do with you or has moved on with their lives.
Why would you want to put yourself through all of this?
It isn’t worth it.
It isn’t worth it to come back to this moment in the future with a heavy heart.
Thereby, when you are angry with someone, do everything in your power to still be kind to that person.
You don’t have to communicate right away.
You should take some time out for yourself to get yourself back together.
Go work on that hobby. Go catch a movie. Go to the beach. Read a book. Exercise.
Do whatever you have to in order to prevent yourself from acting irrationally.
When you are angry at someone, try to take a step back and look at the problem from that person’s perspective.
I know that this can be very difficult to do especially when you believe that you were the one who was wronged.
However, if you can take a step back and try to look at the situation from the other person’s perspective you may be able to deduce some reasons why they acted like they did.
You may be able to see where they were coming from even if you may not like it.
This gives you perspective and helps you avoid saying or doing something to this person that you will regret later.
Being able to have a wider perspective also gives you a better way to discover more about yourself and your temperament.
You will be able to use this moment to learn more about how you should go about handling a situation like this in the future.
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